Office politics - need some help here

[stunninglyAsian]

OK, so I have a classmate that I know and I thought she was an OK person. She asks me to help her get a volunteer position at the place I work at. So I say yes and tell her that I got an application for her that I would give to her the next time I see her and I mentioned her to my boss, I didn't gush about her, but I just told him the her situation and said I thought she would be able do some work here. He was pretty exctied about this and said he was looking for volunteers.

Then out of nowhere she asks me to do stupid things for her like tie her shoelaces, carry her books for her, and things like that. Fuck that- I thought she was joking, but she was acting like she was semi-serious and starts to insult me with her friend, from how I have no friends, which is true (she's the queen bee of social life) to how they use me to do their bidding, and how ugly I dress. Which really shows me what kind of person she is after I do all this for her.

Now here's the problem, I've hung out with people (all my ex-friends) whose personality resemble hers. And if I'm correct, the second she's in the volunteer position, she's going to treat me like trash and in the process ruin my reputation at work and will try to take over my job. I know that she can play the office politics game like nobody's business. So I can't beat her at that game. If I just ignore her, she'll just call up the place (which will make me look bad). I can't withdraw the vote of semi-confidence I gave her (that will make me look bad). I can't just flat out tell her because she'll still call up and get the application because they need volunteers, and if she gets in my "bad" behavior will add fuel to the fire and she'll really work at it to ruin me. The only thing I can think of is to help her get her a volunteer position somewhere else, far far away from me. What would you do?

[mrazntre]

Tell her that there was a hiring freeze and burn her application.

[mr. x]

this should go in the business/career thing

anyway sucks, whats your situation with her right now? like where is her app.? in the boss' hands already or on its way...

[myself808]

seems like if she hates on you now, and then you gotta work with her? i don't think so. tell your sup you were wrong. Lie if ya gotta.

[stunninglyAsian]

Or I could make her withdraw her application - invite her out to dinner (my treat) and at the end of the night profess my "love" for her. Then just act weird and call her up every friday to ask what she's doing, call her up a few times on the weekend to, "just talk to her." AIM her incessantly. No girl wants to be in a place where a guy they don't like is there and is semi-stalking her.

[kasia]

Or I could make her withdraw her application - invite her out to dinner (my treat) and at the end of the night profess my "love" for her. Then just act weird and call her up every friday to ask what she's doing, call her up a few times on the weekend to, "just talk to her." AIM her incessantly. No girl wants to be in a place where a guy they don't like is there and is semi-stalking her.

this might work. but still, i want to know why she feels like she can live life believing that she can step on whomever she feels like stepping on. why would happen if you tell her what you really think of her?

[mrazntre]

this might work. but still, i want to know why she feels like she can live life believing that she can step on whomever she feels like stepping on. why would happen if you tell her what you really think of her?


There will always be "princesses" (guy, girl, whatever) in this world that think that they can get away with anything and everything due to some misfiring of the synaptic responses in the brain. It's as if those people really do live in a fairyland world where they rule over the pitiful people and those people should be grateful to be in their presence. These people either don't have a grip on reality or they really do have a grip on reality and become manipulative bitches. It's funny that some of these fairyland people act as if nothing bothers them because they're so messed up inside and by brushing things aside, they'll find their inner peace. You have to figure out which type of person she is so that you can properly act out against her.

[kimpossible]

Drop her like a bad habit and never look back. I'm serious. Cold severance, then let her fade out of your existence. She's sucked up enough of your time.

[ism]

You don't need her. You don't owe her anything. You don't need a convulted scheme to get rid of her. Just cut off communication.

You can tell your boss you were wrong about her but know some other people who would fit in nicely.

[stunninglyAsian]

this might work. but still, i want to know why she feels like she can live life believing that she can step on whomever she feels like stepping on. why would happen if you tell her what you really think of her?

She's spoiled. Her cell phone broke one day and she called daddy up, who lives 3 hours away, and he drove to give her a new cell phone. She can pretty much get anything, anytime from daddy without hesitation from him.
She has that really bad personality where if you have something she wants, she'll be the nicest person to you and once she gets it, she'll treat you like crap. Unless of course you are somebody important. And lately, she's got that very annoying "Sex and the city is based on my sophisticated lifestyle" attitude with her wannabe powersuits and idiot "oh, you peasant" type comments.

If I told her, she'd act all surprised and hurt. Then she'd try to resolve the situation. Then she'd call me up to ask if I want to eat lunch (her treat) to get me completely comfortable and confident in our friendship. And then try to secretly do something to attack me, like spread a rumor or ruin my reputation with other people.

Or if she's with her best friend, she'd fight back a bit and probably start crying, which would anger her best friend (she's too naive and stupid to see who she really is) so that she could do the dirty work for her. And then they'd try to secretly do something to hurt me.

[mr. x]

stunning i honestly duno why u waste your time with her since she seems to have no redeeming qualities from what you've described (she must be bangable)

seriously though, she's toxic man, i wouldnt all out tell her off cuz she's connected and connected people are the worst people to attack. let her fade away, im sure she'll get the point. dont return her calls, dont respond to her messages, etc.

[stunninglyAsian]

I'll help her out and be extra nice to her...

[lethal]

Just drop her. Seriously, if the new girl talks shit about you, who has been there a while, who will listen to her? She's got no cred yet.

[mr. x]

what does she give u stunning, out of this relationship. u said she just uses and uses

[mrazntre]

I'll help her out and be extra nice to her...


seriously dood. get some sex from her. AT LEASTTTT !!!

[Banana]

How could you possibly stand next to someone like this?

I would have thrown her into a woodchipper feet first a long time ago.

[thaite]

Be nice, ask her for a favor, even the smallest one (like, "Can you hand me that pencil"), and then once she's outlived her usefulness you gotta drop her, cold.

And then don't give in to the drama.