Asian Females Paying To Date Non-Asian Men

[boycott]

Is it just me and my friends that notice Asian females always paying the bill at restaurants and the white males not even flinching to reach for their wallets or at least offer to pay. Could it be that out of the many times that I as a waiter at a restaurant serving these couples that maybe by coincidence the white guy had paid earlier and it was the asian girl's turn during dinner? Or is it that these women are so happy white guys with blonde hair blue eyes are willing to go out with them that they'd treat them as demi-gods and kiss the ground they walk on. The worse thing has to be seeing AF/WM couples in a car and the asian female is the one driving. Am I assuming every time I see this that the man is letting the woman drive his ride or is it what I really think? I don't even wanna go there with the Asian women and poor black guys. Traditional thinking would interpret these acts as cheapselling yourself to men because you don't value yourself, your family or your race. Any thoughts?

[deez nuts]

I don't know boycott. I've never seen that happen, but you probably get a chance to see it more than me since you were a waiter. If it's a regular thing that's pretty fucked up. Because I thought most women in general would bitch slap the man upside the head and give him the big peace out if she has to pay for him one too many times.

[karizma]

The worse thing has to be seeing AF/WM couples in a car and the asian female is the one driving. Am I assuming every time I see this that the man is letting the woman drive his ride or is it what I really think? I don't even wanna go there with the Asian women and poor black guys.

>> umm tell me why thats a bad thing that the girl is driving? shit id wanna drive if i went out on a date...easy escape heh heh..

>> did it ever occur to you that maybe an asian women may have fallen for someone with a lesser monetary status and is fine with it and doesnt mind snagging the bill once in a while? but...if you're assumptions are accurate than i guess itd be a wrong thing...but i dont necessarily feel that theyre doing this because their ecstatic to be dating a white foo...

>> and ive seen many a asian girl pay for their asian boyfriend/date's dinner...why is this so wrong to guys? is it like deflating your ego or something? by paying the bill are we sending the signal that we're here to serve you or something? sheesh...

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 26 2002, 08:25 AM


>> and ive seen many a asian girl pay for their asian boyfriend/date's dinner...why is this so wrong to guys? is it like deflating your ego or something? by paying the bill are we sending the signal that we're here to serve you or something? sheesh...
I for one love it when my asian girlfriend pays for me!

But from my own personal dating experience, I stand a better shot at winning the lottery. Heh heh j/k



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[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by boycott@Aug 26 2002, 05:54 AM
Is it just me and my friends that notice Asian females always paying the bill at restaurants and the white males not even flinching to reach for their wallets or at least offer to pay. Could it be that out of the many times that I as a waiter at a restaurant serving these couples that maybe by coincidence the white guy had paid earlier and it was the asian girl's turn during dinner? Or is it that these women are so happy white guys with blonde hair blue eyes are willing to go out with them that they'd treat them as demi-gods and kiss the ground they walk on. The worse thing has to be seeing AF/WM couples in a car and the asian female is the one driving. Am I assuming every time I see this that the man is letting the woman drive his ride or is it what I really think? I don't even wanna go there with the Asian women and poor black guys. Traditional thinking would interpret these acts as cheapselling yourself to men because you don't value yourself, your family or your race. Any thoughts?
i've never seen this. or if i have, it was not often enough that i actually remember it. on the other hand, i've known asian girls who have been hesitant to go on a date with white guys because they heard that white guys were cheap and would want to split the bill. i assured them that not all white guys would do that and most that i know won't.

[Chris]

I have also not seen this happening. I don't think it is the case for most situation.

[angel nympho]

It's just you.

Stop trying to search for ways to target interracial couples.

Oh yeah, and maybe the Asian girl drives cuz it's her fucking car.

Girls deserve the chance to pay for her guy every once in a while too.

[kasia]

Originally posted by boycott@Aug 26 2002, 10:54 AM
Is it just me and my friends that notice Asian females always paying the bill at restaurants and the white males not even flinching to reach for their wallets or at least offer to pay. Could it be that out of the many times that I as a waiter at a restaurant serving these couples that maybe by coincidence the white guy had paid earlier and it was the asian girl's turn during dinner? Or is it that these women are so happy white guys with blonde hair blue eyes are willing to go out with them that they'd treat them as demi-gods and kiss the ground they walk on. The worse thing has to be seeing AF/WM couples in a car and the asian female is the one driving. Am I assuming every time I see this that the man is letting the woman drive his ride or is it what I really think? I don't even wanna go there with the Asian women and poor black guys. Traditional thinking would interpret these acts as cheapselling yourself to men because you don't value yourself, your family or your race. Any thoughts?
doesn't this go against the idea that white males with an asian fetish go after asian females specifically for the reason that they are docile, submissive, etc.?

[thaite]

Women who pay and do all the driving... hmm...

Where can I find me one of those?

[boycott]

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 26 2002, 09:23 PM
doesn't this go against the idea that white males with an asian fetish go after asian females specifically for the reason that they are docile, submissive, etc.?


That's exactly what I thought so I don't understand how these Asian girls are mutating to a totally self-hating person who spends money on white guys but wouldn't spend money on an Asian guy. Why is it that I see so many of these Asian girls driving around white guys but I don't see them driving any Asian guys? Totally f..king stupid chicks that make Asians look bad and lame. I have yet to see a white chick drive around an Asian guy.
Women who pay and do all the driving... hmm...Where can I find me one of those? Wouldn't we all wanna know. Unfortunately, these girls have mental problems and couldn't see themselves driving Asian guys around nor paying for us either.

On Asian woman who pay for their Asian bf's dinners,etc... I doubt this happens all the time like with Asian girls and white guys because Asian guys should have more pride and foot the bill most of the time only allowing our precious ladies to pay for our birthdays or special occassions they choose.

For you Asian ladies with white bf's, if this forum topic doesn't apply to you, you can simply ignore it. If it does then post away and tell us your perspective and why you choose to embarass yourself and other Asians by your actions.

I'm wondering if these white guys who always get treated by these self-hating asians get used to this and expect it with every Asian girl they go on dates with?

[DaBestSpooner]

yeah it fucking rocks that girls pay for me all the time

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by boycott@Aug 27 2002, 04:25 AM
Originally posted by kasia@Aug 26 2002, 09:23 PM
doesn't this go against the idea that white males with an asian fetish go after asian females specifically for the reason that they are docile, submissive, etc.?


That's exactly what I thought so I don't understand how these Asian girls are mutating to a totally self-hating person who spends money on white guys but wouldn't spend money on an Asian guy. Why is it that I see so many of these Asian girls driving around white guys but I don't see them driving any Asian guys? Totally f..king stupid chicks that make Asians look bad and lame. I have yet to see a white chick drive around an Asian guy.
Women who pay and do all the driving... hmm...Where can I find me one of those? Wouldn't we all wanna know. Unfortunately, these girls have mental problems and couldn't see themselves driving Asian guys around nor paying for us either.

On Asian woman who pay for their Asian bf's dinners,etc... I doubt this happens all the time like with Asian girls and white guys because Asian guys should have more pride and foot the bill most of the time only allowing our precious ladies to pay for our birthdays or special occassions they choose.

For you Asian ladies with white bf's, if this forum topic doesn't apply to you, you can simply ignore it. If it does then post away and tell us your perspective and why you choose to embarass yourself and other Asians by your actions.

I'm wondering if these white guys who always get treated by these self-hating asians get used to this and expect it with every Asian girl they go on dates with?
you know... i really have never seen this... at least not often enough that it's a significant piece of memory. where do you live again? maybe i should go check it out.

[artsfartsyjanet]

That's exactly what I thought so I don't understand how these Asian girls are mutating to a totally self-hating person who spends money on white guys but wouldn't spend money on an Asian guy.

Boycott, your experiences seeing Asian women paying for the bill with white men rather than Asian women paying for the bill with Asian men is, of course, worthy of speculation, but by assuming that Asian women are "paying for" Caucasian men, is merely a generalization. No matter how many times you see a Asian woman paying for the bill, it doesn't ABSOLUTELY mean that she is paying for the bill because the guy expects it from her. All you see is her paying the bill. Do you always stand near them to see if they discussed who should pay the bill? Did you stand near the couples to see if the guy ever offers to pay first? Who knows, it may be the guy's birthday and they never tell you. To quickly make conclusions only from your own experiences is the "world" as you see it. And how are you in the position to judge someone as "self-hating" if you don't know these individuals' personal lives? Intention is different from behavior. You only see the behavior of Asian women paying for Caucasian men OR Asian women NOT paying for Asian men-- not the intention of it.

Of course, I can see why on a case by case basis how disturbing it is for Asian women expected to pay for every outing in the presence of their Caucasian significant others, but we can universally apply this situation to couples of any racial make-up.

Why is it that I see so many of these Asian girls driving around white guys but I don't see them driving any Asian guys? I have yet to see a white chick drive around an Asian guy.

You haven't seen it, but I have seen Caucasian women drive Asian men. My friend is actually married to a Caucasian woman. It may not be as frequent as the other way around, but this situation comes down to stereotypes. I don't think it's how often we see Caucasian women driving Asian men, it's how often this interracial mix occurs. So instead of the discussing the frequency of these dyads, it all boils down to stereotypes.

Wouldn't we all wanna know. Unfortunately, these girls have mental problems and couldn't see themselves driving Asian guys around nor paying for us either.

It's not a symptom of a mental problem if Asian women decide to pay for a Caucasian guy nor is Caucasian women driving Asian men. Race may not play a major issue between a couple concerning who decides to pay the bill. Just because two people sit together for dinner or lunch doesn't absolutely mean they're a couple either. They could just be friends. The possibilities are endless.


On Asian woman who pay for their Asian bf's dinners,etc... I doubt this happens all the time like with Asian girls and white guys because Asian guys should have more pride and foot the bill most of the time only allowing our precious ladies to pay for our birthdays or special occassions they choose.

The aspect of pride for a guy to pay for a bill is an arbitrary role placed by society. Of course, the traditional view is for the guy to be the provider and the woman be the emotional pillar. Society emphasizes so many differences in our gender roles that people forget that men and women are in fact very similar. In addition, there are so many double standards we find in our society. The point you brought up about race and gender is an example. If a man pays for dinner (regardless of race), it's more socially acceptable, but if a woman wants to pay for dinner (regardless of race), society may frown on that. Now when you add race into the picture, you are also adding cultural differences. Each couple should be examined on a case-by-case basis-- not as one big conglomerate.


For you Asian ladies with white bf's, if this forum topic doesn't apply to you, you can simply ignore it. If it does then post away and tell us your perspective and why you choose to embarass yourself and other Asians by your actions.

"Why you choose to embarrass yourself"? If that's not a personal attack, I don't know what is. There are more constructive ways of dealing with issues. To begin with such a statement doesn't accomplish much change. If anything, it loses your creditability.



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[johnny]

I'm going to date a bomb ASS knockout, white, blond headed girl and have her pay for me (if that ever happens). ;)

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by boycott@Aug 27 2002, 09:25 AM
Originally posted by kasia@Aug 26 2002, 09:23 PM
doesn't this go against the idea that white males with an asian fetish go after asian females specifically for the reason that they are docile, submissive, etc.?


That's exactly what I thought so I don't understand how these Asian girls are mutating to a totally self-hating person who spends money on white guys but wouldn't spend money on an Asian guy. Why is it that I see so many of these Asian girls driving around white guys but I don't see them driving any Asian guys? Totally f..king stupid chicks that make Asians look bad and lame. I have yet to see a white chick drive around an Asian guy.
Women who pay and do all the driving... hmm...Where can I find me one of those? Wouldn't we all wanna know. Unfortunately, these girls have mental problems and couldn't see themselves driving Asian guys around nor paying for us either.

On Asian woman who pay for their Asian bf's dinners,etc... I doubt this happens all the time like with Asian girls and white guys because Asian guys should have more pride and foot the bill most of the time only allowing our precious ladies to pay for our birthdays or special occassions they choose.

For you Asian ladies with white bf's, if this forum topic doesn't apply to you, you can simply ignore it. If it does then post away and tell us your perspective and why you choose to embarass yourself and other Asians by your actions.

I'm wondering if these white guys who always get treated by these self-hating asians get used to this and expect it with every Asian girl they go on dates with?
i have yet to see an asian guy LET his asian girlfriend drive. i think it threatens them.

open your eyes and maybe you'd notice that a lot of asian girls pay for their asian boyfriends, as well. maybe you only notice asian girls paying for white guys because you dont stare at asian girls with asian guys and examine every action they make together.

most of the asian guys and the white guys i know have no problem letting a girl pay every once in a while. in fact, the boyfriends i had who took the most money from me were... both asian. the one who took the least... was white. im sure its a coincidence, but it's probably the reason why i dont agree with you on this one either.



oh yeah... and i've never been on a date with a white guy who wanted me to pay for him.... i've never been on a first date with an asian guy who wanted me to pay either.



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[Arex]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 27 2002, 11:30 PM
i have yet to see an asian guy LET his asian girlfriend drive. i think it threatens them.
I'm not agreeing with boycott at all, but I hope your statement is simply an emotional reaction what he said as opposed to an actual closely held belief of yours...=P


RX

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by Arex@Aug 28 2002, 03:56 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 27 2002, 11:30 PM
i have yet to see an asian guy LET his asian girlfriend drive. &nbsp;i think it threatens them.
I'm not agreeing with boycott at all, but I hope your statement is simply an emotional reaction what he said as opposed to an actual closely held belief of yours...=P


RX
ditto to what he said
because i don't give a shit who drives

[kasia]

the asian guys i dated preferred driving b/c really were scared for their lives--i HATE dealing with the stereotype of bad asian female drivers...though i've been told it's not a stereotype. i drive just fine. i've never been ticketed, in an accident (knock on wood)--and i've been driving for 7 years now...that's more than i can say for the asian guys.

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Arex@Aug 28 2002, 08:56 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 27 2002, 11:30 PM
i have yet to see an asian guy LET his asian girlfriend drive. &nbsp;i think it threatens them.
I'm not agreeing with boycott at all, but I hope your statement is simply an emotional reaction what he said as opposed to an actual closely held belief of yours...=P


RX
I dont know a SINGLE asian guy who'd let me NEAR his car.

[Arex]

Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 28 2002, 11:35 AM
Originally posted by Arex@Aug 28 2002, 08:56 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 27 2002, 11:30 PM
i have yet to see an asian guy LET his asian girlfriend drive. i think it threatens them.
I'm not agreeing with boycott at all, but I hope your statement is simply an emotional reaction what he said as opposed to an actual closely held belief of yours...=P


RX
I dont know a SINGLE asian guy who'd let me NEAR his car.
What's weird is that you don't seem to have any trouble at all making these questionable generalizations when it comes to Asian guys based on your own experiences, but you won't hesitate to jump down boycott's throat for doing the same. (of course, I'll concede that his views tend to be a tad more extreme and, perhaps, distorted) Just an observation. But of course, our perceptions can only be based on our own experiences so it's not really a big deal.

As for me, I loved kickin' it in shotgun of my own car. And my ex-sig. other loved driving my little rice rocket around. Sometimes when we both had to drive, we'd swap cars and race. She'd kick my ass every time. Fun shit.=)


Alex

[angel nympho]

Originally posted by Arex@Aug 28 2002, 06:49 PM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 28 2002, 11:35 AM
Originally posted by Arex@Aug 28 2002, 08:56 AM
Originally posted by angel nympho@Aug 27 2002, 11:30 PM
i have yet to see an asian guy LET his asian girlfriend drive. i think it threatens them.
I'm not agreeing with boycott at all, but I hope your statement is simply an emotional reaction what he said as opposed to an actual closely held belief of yours...=P


RX
I dont know a SINGLE asian guy who'd let me NEAR his car.
What's weird is that you don't seem to have any trouble at all making these questionable generalizations when it comes to Asian guys based on your own experiences, but you won't hesitate to jump down boycott's throat for doing the same. (of course, I'll concede that his views tend to be a tad more extreme and, perhaps, distorted) Just an observation. But of course, our perceptions can only be based on our own experiences so it's not really a big deal.

As for me, I loved kickin' it in shotgun of my own car. And my ex-sig. other loved driving my little rice rocket around. Sometimes when we both had to drive, we'd swap cars and race. She'd kick my ass every time. Fun shit.=)


Alex
yes well i got the "i think it threatens them" idea from an asian guy. he told me that he feels threatened when a girl tries to take over "his territory." its the one place he feels like a man. but at least i said "i think".... =x i dont mean to jump to conclusions about asian guys and i dont really think i have been very much. everything i've ever said about asian guys i've noted that it was from my experience and i've tried real hard to defend them at the same time argue with boycotts argument. im just trying to sayyyyy that i think boycotts views on just about everything are wrong.

[johnny]

kinda OT but I payed $150 for a dinner date - although she was not physically attractive(looked like Predator from the movie), she liked whiteboys(go figure-cuz Asian man would not date her looks - okay I'm mean), and she had a friend who looked like Bin Laden's sister.

I'm still mad - could have used that $150 for massage parlor :P


Lesson learned





Hey I'm not a bad guy I paid afterall!!! :lol:

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by johnny@Aug 28 2002, 02:43 PM
kinda OT but I payed $150 for a dinner date - although she was not physically attractive(looked like Predator from the movie), she liked whiteboys(go figure-cuz Asian man would not date her looks - okay I'm mean), and she had a friend who looked like Bin Laden's sister.

I'm still mad - could have used that $150 for massage parlor :P


Lesson learned





Hey I'm not a bad guy I paid afterall!!! :lol:
dude you're crying over spilled milk. if you're going to take her out and spend so much money on her, i don't know why you're complaining that she's not attractive. did someone force you to take her out?

[boycott]

Originally posted by johnny@Aug 28 2002, 08:43 PM
kinda OT but I payed $150 for a dinner date - although she was not physically attractive(looked like Predator from the movie), she liked whiteboys(go figure-cuz Asian man would not date her looks - okay I'm mean), and she had a friend who looked like Bin Laden's sister.

I'm still mad - could have used that $150 for massage parlor :P


Lesson learned





Hey I'm not a bad guy I paid afterall!!! :lol:
First of all a line from one of my favorite songs; Lessons in love when will you ever learn...Level42.

Where did you take her? French restaurant? How is it that you spent that much on a whiteboy lover and didn't figure that out b4 the date? Was she constantly complaining how the whiteboy let her pay for everything? I bet she brought along her friend so that you had to pay double for everything?

Yes, $150 could have been very good massage parlor money indeed. That's why men should never pay too much on a first date. Moreover never take two girls on a date unless you've just done a threesome, are rich, or just plain stupid. That's gotta happen at least once in a guy's lifetime but no more.