Rings From Broken Engagements

[kasia]

so i have this platinum diamond ring...a promise ring, really. i was never engaged. this is from a relationship that ended 3 years ago.

i haven't worn it since and have been thinking about selling it on ebay (think of how many new pairs of shoes i'd be able to buy with the money! :lol: )...but then again, as much as i'd hate to admit it, the ring does have sentimental value.

i'm never going to wear it again--it would be too weird. i guess i can give it to my daughter in the future, but that might piss my future husband off. it's been sitting on my dresser for the past 3 years.

what should i do with it?? what would you do with it??

(and i offered to give it back on several occasions but he refuses to take it back.)

[artsfartsyjanet]

I think you ought to sell it. Well, my story's a bit different. My ex-fiance (as all of you probably know) cheated on me a month before we were even engaged. This woman he cheated on me with worked with him and gave birth to their daughter DURING our engagement. SICK, isn't it? Anyway, I am going to sell most of my stuff on e-bay, even the engagement ring. The engagement ring is actually white gold with a diamond on top. I don't see any sentimental value in the ring because the whole engagement was really bogus. As for the bag of foreign coins he collected while overseas, a friend of mine told me I ought to melt them and mold them into a middle finger and send it back to him, but I thought nah.....



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[Barbs]

u should totally sell it. pawn it, auction it, however you like. but there's no point in keeping it if you're not going to wear it and you are no longer "promised" to this guy, right? if u are saving it for your daughter then what is the rationale: "my mom gave me this ring that some ex-bf of hers who is not my father gave to her."

some jewelry from exes can be given away to friends and sisters...such as necklaces or bracelets. but a ring is something somewhat sacred and personal. if you're not going to wear it, selling it is the best choice.

[angel nympho]

i'd give it back. they gave you the ring under the premise that you were going to marry them. no engagement, no ring. the ring's like a symbol of your upcoming marriage.. i wouldnt want that laying around anyway.
i'd think that the guy who spent money on the ring should have it back. ...but it depends on the situation. if the guy's an ass, i'd say make him eat it.

[mrazntre]

hmm....


if the chick broke up with the guy under normal circumstances, such as "Irreconcilable differences" or something to that affect, I think that the girl should return the ring. she broke up with him, meaning, she doesn't want that ring.

if he breaks up with her due to "Irreconcilable differences" he obviously doesn't want to marry her, so she should give it back to him because he bought the damn thing.

okay, now if there's any cheating involved, the victim should get the ring.

in any other case, the girl is a gold digging slut ass bitch. And all his friends were right trying to persuade him not to propose to her cuz you can't turn no gold digging ho into a housewife.

[Chris]

I say sell it. You offer to give it back to him an d it going no where. I say take a picture of the ring and sell it that way you will at least have a photographic memory of it. :)

[kasia]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Aug 27 2002, 10:20 PM
in any other case, the girl is a gold digging slut ass bitch. And all his friends were right trying to persuade him not to propose to her cuz you can't turn no gold digging ho into a housewife.
what are such other cases? :)

i think i'm going to take chris' advice and take a picture of it before selling it. my ex and i are friends, so the reason why it is a hard decision is b/c he may be offended that i'm selling something that he took the time to pick out...o well.

thanks for everyone's advice.

[mrazntre]

such other cases where the bitch cheated on the guy, got pregnant by the other man and thus broke up with her fiancee.. yet still chose to keep the ring.

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by mrazntre@Aug 27 2002, 05:20 PM


okay, now if there's any cheating involved, the victim should get the ring.


That would be my case.

[mrazntre]

i know, i read your case.

[kasia]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 28 2002, 03:28 AM
Originally posted by mrazntre@Aug 27 2002, 05:20 PM


okay, now if there's any cheating involved, the victim should get the ring.


That would be my case.
ack. thank goodness you didn't end up with that loser.

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 28 2002, 01:39 AM
Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 28 2002, 03:28 AM
Originally posted by mrazntre@Aug 27 2002, 05:20 PM


okay, now if there's any cheating involved, the victim should get the ring.


That would be my case.
ack. thank goodness you didn't end up with that loser.
me neither. Oh the humanity.... :o ;) <_<