items for remembrance

[karizma]

>> do you ever find yourself cleaning out your room and finding an ex boyfriends boxers? or maybe your ex girlfriend's favorite sweater? or maybe even an item of clothing from a friends with benefits? i do!! ive collected quite a bit of mens wardrobe over the years...all of them with a seperate memory...the smell of them has long worn off to the untrained nose but to me...those memories stay fresh in my mind and i can still smell their scent...it brings a smile to my face when i look through these pilfered items...no im not a klepto...

things ive collected:
- 2 pairs of boxers
- 3 pairs of basketball shorts
- 2 sweatshirts
- 2 armani shirts
- 2 pairs of windbreakers

>> haha if a guy ever needed a change of clothes im the one to look for lol.

[artsfartsyjanet]

hmm..let me look... my last ex left these items/gifts with me:
-two cell phones
-millions of photos of us in LA, San Diego, Vegas, and St. Louis.
-a computer
-a camera
-military uniform
-birthday cards
-a bag of foreign coins
-movie stubs
-a bunch of written letters
-A set of Estee lauder perfume/lotion
-oh and an engagement ring. :huh: <_<



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[princess]

dress shirt, black hoodie, wife beaters, and basketball shorts

oh and the shirt im wearing right now. its so comfy :P

[amietron]

Well, Spencer gave me his elephant, Edward. It's a stuffed animal he had since he was a baby. The little tail is a little round rattling ball. Ed's a little roughed up and shabby looking but he's sooooo, sooooooo cute. Spence said that I needed Ed more than he did, and to take care of him. Yeah, and I do. =) I sleep with Ed every night, no matter where I go.

And 2 of his shirts. Top right drawer in the dresser next to my closet.

[deez nuts]

Thanks for reminding me Woot. I'm missing much articles of clothing and other shit. It's time to collect. Good looking out, woman,

Chasiubao da Repo Man

Edit: I hope you washed those boxers!



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[Saiko]

I seem to collect everybody's wallet all the time. I'd return them but they'd always end up back at my house again. Peoples' keys too. I don't have an ex, but I think my items of rememberance are just a bunch of movie ticket stubs that are all taped to my wall, his drawing, and a bunch of pictures (in fact, I have everybody's picures; my drawer is filled with packages of them that they've all left here or I've borrowed and never returned). I don't know what else. I should go rip his shirt off and run away with it one day.

[thaite]

- some pictures
- a letter
- a Valentine's card she made
- a comb
- a dog
- and a wedding dress that she never came back to claim

[karizma]

>> a wedding dress? whats the story with that 0_o... *nosy*

>> hey bunboy people keep your stuff for a reason!! lol let them have it!!! and yes ive washed the boxers.

>> do you ever start reminiscing after a particular item comes up and start missing that person?

[wylin]

Stuff ex's left

Ex J.L.
- silk roses, candy roses, tissue box (all hand made)
- letters claiming she'll always be there and always be my friend (shez gone for good probs).
- Chrismas Card she made for me
- Robotech Super Poseable Roy Folker type
- Cashmere scarf she wasted alota money on.
- Reason to get an SR20det

Ex. S.L.
- Letters,
- lotsa of her artwork
- pix of her and her twin sis from 4 yrs ago,
- Polo cloth jacket i always wear
- cards
- anime addiction

Ex. Korean
- hole in wallet
- sum malice toward koreatown girls
- social smoking habit
- social drinking habit
- ktown fobia.



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[Saiko]

Originally posted by wylin@Aug 24 2002, 05:51 PM
Ex. Korean
- hole in wallet
- sum malice toward koreatown girls
- social smoking habit
- social drinking habit
- ktown fobia.
I'm guessing that was the worst one. o_O Why'd she dislike ktown and the girls there?

[artsfartsyjanet]

>> do you ever start reminiscing after a particular item comes up and start missing that person?
no :huh: :)



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[Barbs]

i throw everything out unless it's pricey or valuable. what really is the point of keeping all this stuff to remember someone by if u've broken up? the only thing that i usually keep are pictures and cards. dumped a bunch of old cards/letters, etc. out a couple months ago and it only made me feel sad looking at all this old stuff. not sad that i missed the relationship(s) but sad that i wasted so much time and energy....

[Arex]

Originally posted by Barbs@Aug 24 2002, 09:54 PM
i throw everything out unless it's pricey or valuable. what really is the point of keeping all this stuff to remember someone by if u've broken up? the only thing that i usually keep are pictures and cards. dumped a bunch of old cards/letters, etc. out a couple months ago and it only made me feel sad looking at all this old stuff. not sad that i missed the relationship(s) but sad that i wasted so much time and energy....
Just 'cause you've broken up with someone shouldn't necessarily mean that everything you did was a waste of time or that the person or relationship isn't worth remembering. Call me idealistic but I don't think any relationship is a complete waste of time, no matter what the outcome, so long as you learned a least a little bit about love, relationships and, most importantly, yourself during or after the fact. But that's my take on things. I guess it might also depend on the nature of the relationship/breakup. Most things I have just remind me of the good times. Those, to me, are memories worth holding on to (if you focus solely on the negative, you just become bitter and cynical).

In my own "collection" I just have a few miscellaneous pictures, cards, a cat, lots of stuffed animals, and a gaping hole in my chest. Okay, so maybe not the latter so much any more.

I know my exs were fond of jacking my boxers and some of my T-shirts. They also got a bunch of my art.=/

Alex

[Barbs]

Originally posted by Arex@Aug 25 2002, 08:27 AM

Just 'cause you've broken up with someone shouldn't necessarily mean that everything you did was a waste of time or that the person or relationship isn't worth remembering. Call me idealistic but I don't think any relationship is a complete waste of time, no matter what the outcome, so long as you learned a least a little bit about love, relationships and, most importantly, yourself during or after the fact. But that's my take on things.
i used to subscribe to that philosophy that all these past relationships were good learning experiences. however, as of late, i've become increasingly disillusioned b/c of the sheer quantity of failed relationships and time and energy invested. if the number were halved i think i might still believe in the "it was all a good learning experience" theory. this is not to say that i don't have fond memories b/c invariably i do. but ultimately what's the point of having fond memories of someone who is no longer a part of your life?

[thaite]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 24 2002, 03:20 PM
>> a wedding dress? whats the story with that 0_o... *nosy*
Eh, it's a long story and one I don't care to recount -- not because it's painful, but just because it'd take too damn long to type out.

I ain't keeping this dress around for any remembrance value, it's just that I don't know what to do with it. I told her sister to come pick it up, but she never did. I don't want to throw it away, somebody might be able to use it. Maybe I can get rid of it on eBay or the Goodwill.

[angel nympho]

i give everything back. guys hate it when you do that. it's kinda like... the final insult.

[deez nuts]

Haha wish my ex's think like that angel. Heh I wouldn't take it as an insult, as a matter of fact I be more at peace. Especially to that psychowench that kept a few of my Prada shirts.

My male pride is worth a whole lot less than getting some of my shit back, especially if I'm not tapping that ass anymore.



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[karizma]

>> ahaha bunboy...remind me to steal items of ur wardrobe if i ever meet you lol...

>> its not like i keep items from guys to dwell over the past and wish they were mine again...they just hold little memories that make me smile...yknow the "good" times...but the stuff i have from guys i hate i stuff in a shoe box :D...those bastards *grumble grumble*

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 25 2002, 05:57 PM
>> ahaha bunboy...remind me to steal items of ur wardrobe if i ever meet you lol...

>> its not like i keep items from guys to dwell over the past and wish they were mine again...they just hold little memories that make me smile...yknow the "good" times...but the stuff i have from guys i hate i stuff in a shoe box :D...those bastards *grumble grumble*
You mean like a packrat? :P

Why do you keep stuff from guys you hated, even if it's in a shoeox?
I kinda figure most women burn it in a huge bonfire or something.

Heh heh I'm asking cuz I am wondering if there is any hope in recovering some of my old stuff, especially in the relationships where I was considered the bastard.

Yeah yeah it might sound petty to some of ya, but hell man I really liked some of the stuff that were lifted from me. Haha I already got back some kitchenware, that my mom bought me and was asking what happened to them. Haha that rice cooker owned.



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[karizma]

>> someone took a ricecooker from you? lol i dont know about most girls but i stick to wardrobe and stay away from kitchen appliances lol...

>> i keep em to remember what NOT to do in a relationship...and what NOT to put up with...its my little trophies for dumping their asses *teehee*. i am in no way a psycho bitch though...if someone asked me for their stuff back its not like i wouldnt give it back to them sheesh...most of my pirate booty is lifted from guy friends though...^_^...

[artsfartsyjanet]

When I was 17, my other ex-boyfriend's gift (which is a Tommy Hilfiger sweater) was given back to him. Of course, instead of giving it to him personally, I cut it up into shreds and "drive-by-catapulted" it into his front porch. =) It was sweet. :)

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by karizma@Aug 25 2002, 07:51 PM
>> someone took a ricecooker from you? lol i dont know about most girls but i stick to wardrobe and stay away from kitchen appliances lol...


It was a very very good rice cooker.

And we were kinda living together for awhile and when she moved out, I noticed it gone a couple of days later. I think she did it to piss me off, she knew how much I loved that thing. But I got it back today :lol:
.

But it was a gift, I don't ask for gifts back. Just stuff that were lifted or "borrowed" from me.



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[wylin]

Originally posted by Saiko@Aug 24 2002, 06:11 PM
Originally posted by wylin@Aug 24 2002, 05:51 PM
Ex. Korean
- hole in wallet
- sum malice toward koreatown girls
- social smoking habit
- social drinking habit
- ktown fobia.
I'm guessing that was the worst one. o_O Why'd she dislike ktown and the girls there?
nah i she was that kinda koreatown clubber drinker party golddigger girl, i try to avoid those types now =X

[thaite]

Last crazy chick (not the one with the wedding dress) still has a couple of books of mine. I'd like 'em back, but they're just books and easily replaced... and I don't wanna have to talk to her psycho ass again.

And I was just talking about this the other day with a friend of mine, but the above-mentioned psycho gave me a calendar when we parted. Like I'm so damn dumb I can't see through that. The only reason you give somebody a calendar is to try to make them think of you for the next freakin year! LOL!



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[amietron]

Originally posted by buoywonder@Aug 25 2002, 11:24 PM
the above-mentioned psycho gave me a calendar when we parted. Like I'm so damn dumb I can't see through that. The only reason you give somebody a calendar is to try to make them think of you for the next freakin year! LOL!
WOOT + DOC? Is that what I should do?

:( I am seriously helpless + restless. I dunno what to do. I don't want to move on. I want him. :'((((

[kasia]

Originally posted by amietron@Aug 26 2002, 08:52 PM
Originally posted by buoywonder@Aug 25 2002, 11:24 PM
the above-mentioned psycho gave me a calendar when we parted. Like I'm so damn dumb I can't see through that. The only reason you give somebody a calendar is to try to make them think of you for the next freakin year! LOL!
WOOT + DOC? Is that what I should do?

:( I am seriously helpless + restless. I dunno what to do. I don't want to move on. I want him. :'((((
no, not a calendar...

there was an article on this--how to get him back--in teen magazine...very very old issue. i think i read it when i was 12.

anyhow, you're supposed to accidentally leave your shirt at his house that has the scent of your perfume on it. um...i can't remember much else--but stuff like that.

old pics.

[amietron]

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 26 2002, 01:18 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Aug 26 2002, 08:52 PM
Originally posted by buoywonder@Aug 25 2002, 11:24 PM
the above-mentioned psycho gave me a calendar when we parted. Like I'm so damn dumb I can't see through that. The only reason you give somebody a calendar is to try to make them think of you for the next freakin year! LOL!
WOOT + DOC? Is that what I should do?

:( I am seriously helpless + restless. I dunno what to do. I don't want to move on. I want him. :'((((
no, not a calendar...

there was an article on this--how to get him back--in teen magazine...very very old issue. i think i read it when i was 12.

anyhow, you're supposed to accidentally leave your shirt at his house that has the scent of your perfume on it. um...i can't remember much else--but stuff like that.

old pics.
But he moved to Hawaii on Saturday, and I don't have his new address. Plus, I want him back. :'((((((((((((

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 26 2002, 04:18 PM
Originally posted by amietron@Aug 26 2002, 08:52 PM
Originally posted by buoywonder@Aug 25 2002, 11:24 PM
the above-mentioned psycho gave me a calendar when we parted. Like I'm so damn dumb I can't see through that. The only reason you give somebody a calendar is to try to make them think of you for the next freakin year! LOL!
WOOT + DOC? Is that what I should do?

:( I am seriously helpless + restless. I dunno what to do. I don't want to move on. I want him. :'((((
no, not a calendar...

there was an article on this--how to get him back--in teen magazine...very very old issue. i think i read it when i was 12.

anyhow, you're supposed to accidentally leave your shirt at his house that has the scent of your perfume on it. um...i can't remember much else--but stuff like that.

old pics.
No, no. He dumped you. Where's your pride woman! Sure it's hard in the beginning, but it's part of growing up. You can't force someone to be with you. Unless he broke up with you w/o thinking and spur of the moment type thing. If he did, he'll realize this and come crawling back, then you make him work back to your good graces. I feel like I just sold out the male species

Move on plenty of guys out there for you.

Gah when did I become a relationship consultant. Sheeeeeeeit. I'm not the one you wanna ask advice about relationships.

[karizma]

>> dieu....if spence didnt realize what he had than thats his bad dude...be strong woman!! you dont need a man to make you happy... [ i wish i could take my own advice ]

>> if he does come crawling back to you i suggest you take a lil time to ponder whether to take him back...if he could toss you aside like that id question his true feelings...but oh well...whatever floats ur boat dawg.

[amietron]

i think he's juss very untrusting b/c he's been hurt and he doesnt think he has enough heart to give u what u deserve

i talked to him, forgot when, but he was telling me that he always think that girls will leave him so i guess he built a shield around him and you just seem too good to be true ... from what i know, he doesn't seem like he talks to anyone about his problems. he just thinks that he's always alone huh. met too many ppl who betrayed him i guess. ... he needs to get slap so he'll start trusting more. that's the only thing i can think of. ... the only thing i can think of is patience. it's really up to you, do you think it's worth it. don't mind me, my parents don't approve of my bf, so everytime something happens, i ask myself that question. i seriously thinks that spence gotta be crazy to want to dump you. give him time to settle down and i'm sure he'll turn around. he always tell me how great u are.

Those are both from AOL conversations I had with his friends. I had to copy-paste the convo part to make it into a body paragraph-type thing.

It's not hard to make your pride go away if you want something badly enough. What do I do?



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[mrazntre]

Discard ALL.

because you or they did break up with you..... then those were all bad memories. but now they're not memories anymore because it didn't really happen. anyhow. .. right ?