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kasia

08-22-2002, 02:14 PM

once, at a birthday party i threw during high school, a friend of mine brought an incredibly cute guy. throughout the night, we were making lots of eye contact, and i was like, "Yes!" finally, i got him to follow me to my kitchen so we could talk, and the first thing he said was, "do you have somesing munch on?" -- and that completely ruined the moment for me. i directed him to my mom and went back to join my friends.

now, looking back, i still can't believe how rude i was. i think this is a valid question though: is it close-minded to be turned off by guys/girls with accents?

wylin

08-22-2002, 02:19 PM

depends on accent

what i think is sexy
1. british accent that sum cantonese babes have
2. French accent that i heard like once
3. japanese accent - dude JDM girls rock!
Turn off ones
1. Vietnamese fob accent man that one bites
2. Hong kong fob accent - Ah keennnnaaaaa
3. Taiwanese fob accent- Ha-ow RU Yoo Do-Ing, wanto goto Montrey-Paku?

angel nympho

08-22-2002, 02:28 PM

Definately depends on the accent. Some of them are sexy as hellllll...

As for the "would you date a FOB" question... I wouldn't rule it out, but It'd definately be last on my list. I guess he'd really have to impress me to get my attention. Just because I can't really speak anything well except English.

Saiko

08-22-2002, 02:33 PM

Yeah, I don't think I'd completely rule them out either, but it'd be hard to have a relationship. He'd be bad at English and I'd be bad at his language. Hard to communicate and that would suck big time. It might get annoying sometimes too. Like with the HK accents, and volume. You know how they're often loud? I'd rather not be greeted with "HALLO! HOW AW YOO?!?!?!??!?!?!?" Maybe I'm exaggerating a bit, but you guys know what I mean. I already get enough of the HK talk from my relatives and I could hear them a mile away.

Arex

08-22-2002, 03:33 PM

How much of an accent are we talking here? I don't think I mind an accent at all so long as the girl's still intelligible and articulate enough where I can still engage in real conversation with her. But if I'm constantly guessing at what she's trying to say...? Well, is she REALLY hot?? j/k

But what you did was just unacceptable. He was only allowed six words and that was it. Poor guy. :rolleyes:

Alex

deez nuts

08-22-2002, 03:46 PM

Originally posted by kasia@Aug 22 2002, 09:14 PM
once, at a birthday party i threw during high school, a friend of mine brought an incredibly cute guy. throughout the night, we were making lots of eye contact, and i was like, "Yes!" finally, i got him to follow me to my kitchen so we could talk, and the first thing he said was, "do you have somesing munch on?" -- and that completely ruined the moment for me. i directed him to my mom and went back to join my friends.

now, looking back, i still can't believe how rude i was. i think this is a valid question though: is it close-minded to be turned off by guys/girls with accents?
Yah Kasia. You're such a heartbreaker. Flirted with eye contact the whole time, he followed ya into the kitchen so he can talk to ya and he got dismissed. He was probably standing in the kitchen alone thinking: "What I do wrong?" "Did I read her body signals right?"

But, I'm with ya Kasia. If the woman has an accent I can't stand, she's done. You're the weakest link, goodbye!

SunWuKong

08-22-2002, 04:32 PM

the only similar experience i've had was this girl i went on a few dates with. she's chinese and she moved from vietnam only a few years ago. we communicated in cantonese. but we were driving somewhere and we were talking about directions and despite the fact that she has been taking english class several times a week for a few years, she could not or did not want to pronounce the "st" sound in "west" and "east". she was saying "weh" and "eeh". after that date i never called her again. even though she has a great body. english was absolutely not necessary for us to get along, but i just couldn't get over the way that she could not pronounce the "st" sound.

i don't mind HK accents at all.
and singlish is absolutely adorable coming from the right girl.

thaite

08-22-2002, 06:03 PM

I don't rule nuthin' out... except datin' other guys. Yeah, that's out. :blink:

Ayers

08-22-2002, 10:25 PM

For some reason I dont usually mind the accent too much. It kinda sounds cute on the girls... esp. if they are sexy/cute/hot/etc to begin with. However, I've found that girls straight from Korea grew up in a different environment and the expectations in a relationship are usually very different.

So FOB accent ... ok if the whole package is nice
FOB background... prolly not a winner in the long-term picture.

AliBabaIncorporated

08-22-2002, 10:35 PM

Originally posted by SunWuKung@Aug 22 2002, 11:32 PM
and singlish is absolutely adorable coming from the right girl.
man ... weird ... i can't stand the stuff ... but then again I am rather biased. i'm not sure whether I should count as an ABA or not, cuz I left right after I was born. but i have a really bad gut reaction with some girls with heavy FOB accents. especially if she insists on talking to me in bad English when we have a better language in common. a slight accent, especially HK or Korean, is a turn-on when i hear it from a girl. but sometimes I get really annoyed to hear it from a guy (anyone in the bay area ever seen those cantonese Ford commercials on KTSF? the way the guy says the brand name "Expedition" makes me wanna smack him. I'm not sure why, either.)

actually last time i was back in m'sia my cousin set me up with some Chinese girl (his schoolmate's coworker or something) who spoke bad Chinese and not so great English (national school girl). I thought the date wasn't so bad but I later heard she was embarassed being in public with a guy who spoke such bad Malay. I guess I get back what I give out.

SunWuKong

08-22-2002, 10:51 PM

yeah i think i'm the only person i know who actually likes it when the girl speaks heavy singlish.

artsfartsyjanet

08-23-2002, 08:07 AM

I used to date a guy about 7 years ago who I spoke with in Chinese or in English. It was a nice mix, but whenever I want to fully express myself, English is the only language that enables me to do that. For the guy though, he expresses himself better in Chinese or Vietnamese. Mainly because of the communication, the relationship didn't work out that well. :D

DaBestSpooner

08-23-2002, 01:37 PM

my gf's a FOP(fresh off the plane) from japan

well she's been here in the states for 5 years, but she speaks english better than most people here, and her accent is very cute. She ends almost every sentence with "neh"

I dont have any problems of her being a FOP. She's a funny lil gal with lotsa energy and spunk, thats what counts.

amietron

08-23-2002, 03:27 PM

My mom was born in Japan, and she moved to CA when she was 13. Aaanyway-- While my family was still on vacation, we went out to dinner at this nice-ish restaurant in Del Mar. When waiter came to take drink orders, my dad got wine and she ordered at "Butt Lite." A what? Yeah. So I kinda corrected her "Mom, a what? It's BUD lite, not BUTT lite." and she threw a hissy fit, started bitching, pinching my bro/dad (cus they were laughing) and then, even worse- she said she wouldn't pay my school tuition.

I think I'm a little anal about how people pronounce words. It's important for when you're speaking. Good articulation is a MUST, kinda. Narf. Anyway, I like making fun (not in a MEAN way) of how fobs speak. If I were to have a relationship with a fob guy, I think I'd make fun of him a lot or something. I dunno. Never thought about this that much, cus I've never been in a situation like this where it was necessary for me to do so. If I like the guy enough that I can overlook the accent, then I guess everything ok. I'm sure other good qualities can "cover" the accent. As with anything, with time all things pass. Like Napoleon said, "A man's palate can, in time, become accustomed to anything."

Saiko

08-23-2002, 05:11 PM

It's hard to fix an accent. I've given up on trying to get my parents to pronounce things right. It's sometimes funny when my mom says something, and my dad corrects her with something just as wrong. My dad's funny. When we had crab, he yelled "Come upstairs! We have crap for dinner!" And halibut. "We have hairy butt! Very good fish! Very expensive!"

SunWuKong

08-23-2002, 06:06 PM

Originally posted by Morientes@Aug 23 2002, 07:02 PM
i don't think i could get it on with a fob girl who pronounced 'fried rice' - 'fried lice' - it does happen you know!?
actually that would be "flied lice".

Saiko

08-23-2002, 06:14 PM

Fried lice sounds disturbing. >_<

Arex

08-23-2002, 06:17 PM

Originally posted by Saiko@Aug 23 2002, 05:14 PM
Fried lice sounds disturbing. >_<
But it's oh so tasty. :unsure:

Alex

kasia

08-23-2002, 07:02 PM

would you like some hamboogers? :)

Saiko

08-23-2002, 07:18 PM

Hamboogers are good, but crap is the shiznat. You can't pass that up.

karizma

08-23-2002, 10:18 PM

>> for a while i used to be attracted to fobs [cantonese ones]...i DONT know why...i guess for a while it was the "in" thing to be as strange as that sounds...but i went out on a date with one...oh man...i mustve said "huh" about a hundred times...he spoke in broken english and fluent chinese...but vice versa for me...needless to say we didnt really complement each other...i never went out with him again though he did ask me back out a couple times...ive learned my lesson...i like my men to be fluent in chinese and english but if they have a thick accent...it doesnt help when they try and whisper sweet nothings in my ear =/

Barbs

08-25-2002, 08:00 PM

i'm fairly comfortable in both chinese and english and ideally i would want to be with someone who was at the same level of comfort in both languages as well.

that being said, i have a strict rule: i can't date anyone who i have to "dumb" down my english for. if i have to avoid words over two syllables with him, then it ain't happening. at the same time, i really can't be with someone who can't speak a word of chinese either....

Arex

08-26-2002, 06:59 PM

Originally posted by Saiko@Aug 23 2002, 06:18 PM
Hamboogers are good, but crap is the shiznat. You can't pass that up.
I much prefer getting "the clap" myself...

Alex

kimpossible

08-26-2002, 07:48 PM

Originally posted by amietron@Aug 23 2002, 02:27 PM
When waiter came to take drink orders, my dad got wine and she ordered at "Butt Lite." A what? Yeah. So I kinda corrected her "Mom, a what? It's BUD lite, not BUTT lite." and she threw a hissy fit, started bitching, pinching my bro/dad (cus they were laughing) and then, even worse- she said she wouldn't pay my school tuition.

Once last year we were visiting The Hag a.k.a. my grandma. We were settling down to one of our usual awkward dinner when she turns around with a baked item, peanut bread. Now, despite 20 years in America my grandmother still speaks a really fucked up mix of Japanese and English.

She swings around with the baked good, looks into my husband's face and asks him, "Do you likes penis breath?" (It was peanut bread)

And yes, I realize I should throw no stones considering I speak Mandarin like a baby and Japanese like a slave. But it was so damn funny.

Ayers

08-26-2002, 09:28 PM

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Aug 26 2002, 06:48 PM
She swings around with the baked good, looks into my husband's face and asks him, "Do you likes penis breath?" (It was peanut bread)
ROFLMAO - did you laugh out loud?? It would have been so hard for me not to start busting up if I heard that one!

:lol: :D

karizma

08-27-2002, 02:58 PM

>> ahhaha shit that made ME laugh out loud omg hahaha...

>> reminds me of when my cousin was at an italian restaurant and the waiter was listing the varieties of soda...he said "cock" instead of "coke", and my cousin asked him to repeat and he said it really low cause he realized what he said and was embarassed :D

mrazntre

08-27-2002, 03:11 PM

i'd fuck a FOB but i wouldn't date one.

cuz of they tEEEfz... or lack thereof

kimpossible

08-28-2002, 09:28 PM

Here's some more.

Before I understood any Mandarin, I once tried to tell a woman that I liked her tofu. My intent was to express that I liked the way she cooked tofu.

One of my friends went to light a candle and asked me if he should set the dick [versus wick] on fire.

Another friend really hated some guy for some stupid reason I forget. He kept saying he was dying to 'beat that guy off.' After hearing this for a couple of days I finally told him it was 'up' that he wanted. Not off.

kasia

08-28-2002, 10:03 PM

kinda like..."peace outside!"

:lol:

"just a little free-sty-o"

achtungbaby

08-29-2002, 06:06 AM

I don't understand how anyone can rule out dating FOBs -- some of them are hot! And if you're white-washed enough, you can at least learn some culture. I dated a FOB when I was in college. It was difficult because phone conversations that would normally take about 5 min were instead about 30 min. It was all her fault, of course.