Do women really like a taller man? [Archive]

johnny

08-22-2002, 08:50 AM

Okay I have to ask because the women I've known all say they like a tall man. Well in my personal experience this is a load of BS! Although it may be true I do not thin it is a HUGE factor to the women. I've had girls say I'm too tall, WTF? is 6'2" really too tall (NO! I think they are just not interested).

On the other side of things, I see short men with all the fione ladies... why do short men seem to be the playas and tall guys are usually kinda mellow and quiet? Maybe it's because the height already gives confidence and therefore, short men try to make up what they lack with charm. So that leaves us tall guys in the shadows. (maybe not)

But then again you have to consider the fact that women believe a shorter guy is cuter and the taller guy is usually just handsome. I believe this to be true, therefore, the shorter man has a cuter look that women like.

WIth all that said my point is that although I'm tall and have been told to be handsome (never told I was a cutie), where are all my tall loving ladies at???

Barbs

08-22-2002, 09:01 AM

yes women do like taller men.

height always helps an asian guy.

however, there are of course some things which height cannot compensate for: ie. poor self-esteem, dog-ugly face, etc. etc.

johnny

08-22-2002, 09:03 AM

Originally posted by Barbs@Aug 22 2002, 04:01 PM
yes women do like taller men.

height always helps an asian guy.

however, there are of course some things which height cannot compensate for: ie. poor self-esteem, dog-ugly face, etc. etc.
I must have a dog-ugly face.... <_<

kasia

08-22-2002, 09:28 AM

actually, really tall guys intimidate me b/c i'm short (5'2 1/2" :) ). and it's kinda hard talking because they'd either have to bend down or i have to look up, etc.

Shuriken

08-22-2002, 10:06 AM

I am an adult male who stands less than five-feet tall. I am not a dwarf, but my stature is extremely short. And I can tell you that being short is -- to put it mildly -- no fucking fun at all. I have a very hard time getting women I like to take me seriously. It's been my experience that women prefer taller men -- especially women who write "personals" ads (ever notice how many of them say things like "6'+"?). For that reason, even though I'm in my early 40s and have been told that I'm handsome, I have never been in a serious relationship. Maybe guys who are a little shorter than average can turn on the charm and attract women that way. But when you're as exceedingly short as I am, it's a completely different story. So, when I read something saying that short guys are getting all the girls, I know that whoever's writing this is doing so out of ignorance. And it hurts like a kick in the gut.

Imagine reading an Internet post on a non-Asian site that said: "Do you notice that Asian guys are getting all the girls?"

Arex

08-22-2002, 10:33 AM

My own observations have told me quite the opposite: taller guys generally have a huge advantage in getting the ladies. It seems as though girls, especially Asian girls, will forgive a lot in a guy (e.g., no personality, quite the asshole, homely face) simply 'cause an Asian guy is taller than average. Pretty whack if you ask me. Of course, like all generalizations, it's not a universally applicable "rule." I couldn't tell you why height isn't working to your advantage. How much do you weigh? 'cause a guy can definitely be too tall for his weight/frame. 6', 150lbs can look pretty ill to a lot of people... But overall, it's definitely a heightist world out there.

Alex

artsfartsyjanet

08-22-2002, 10:53 AM

My uncle's 5'4" and my aunt is 5'7". I think it's a personality thing if two people love each other regardless of height, but of course, they are at odds with this conformity of this search for men taller than women. Personally, I like to be with guys who are around the same height as I am. I don't mind dating guys a little shorter than me or a little taller than me. When it comes to the extremes, and I'm not intending to be ignorant, but people who are extremely taller or shorter than me are not who I prefer. I'm one of those people who likes to see someone eye to eye. Of course, it's not to say that people who are at the extremes are worthless people because I definitely am not in the position to say that. So, I can see how people who are not in the "norm" of society can be marginalized.

Barbs

08-22-2002, 11:33 AM

i must add tho that since i'm short i shouldn't be looking at the TALL guys but somehow that pavlovian training we received in hs paid off.

i'm sure it does look funny tho. case in point an ex of mine (who was 6'1) and i were shopping and the saleslady said to him, "hey u're little sister is really cute..." kinda gross.

i think that a tall asian man is a "trophy bf". or to put it another way, height in asian men is what boobs are to asian women.

i wouldn't date *any* tall guy just b/c he was tall. i must admit that i certainly would forgive some faults in exchange for height.

johnny

08-22-2002, 11:39 AM

some faults like what? ......a dog-ugly face or lack of self-esteem?

:P

6'2" 170lbs, slim/athletic built, full-time professional, graduate...shouldn't I be a worthy candidate for you women? Or do I just seem to be around a crowd of young immature girls? :blink:

princess

08-22-2002, 11:42 AM

i like tall guys. as long as hes taller than me or at least my height its all good.

artsfartsyjanet

08-22-2002, 11:43 AM

Originally posted by johnny@Aug 22 2002, 01:39 PM
some faults like what? ......a dog-ugly face or lack of self-esteem?

:P

6'2" 170lbs, slim/athletic built, full-time professional, graduate...shouldn't I be a worthy candidate for you women? Or do I just seem to be around a crowd of young immature girls? :blink:
Perhaps, but speaking for myself, I don't feel the need to date anyone at the moment. :)

johnny

08-22-2002, 11:48 AM

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Aug 22 2002, 06:43 PM
Originally posted by johnny@Aug 22 2002, 01:39 PM
some faults like what? ......a dog-ugly face or lack of self-esteem?

:P

6'2" 170lbs, slim/athletic built, full-time professional, graduate...shouldn't I be a worthy candidate for you women?  Or do I just seem to be around a crowd of young immature girls?    :blink:
Perhaps, but speaking for myself, I don't feel the need to date anyone at the moment. :)
janet you brought up a very good point here....you are the kind of women I meet as of late (for the past year or so).

All these women I am interested in say this and also say I'm a nice guy, blah bleh, attractive, blah blah ...and then they say they are happy being single. Their reason for the most part is getting off a recent relationship, bad past experiences, etc. etc.

So why am I left with or dating/meeting these types of women? I have no clue.......

artsfartsyjanet

08-22-2002, 12:18 PM

You're cursed with the heeber jeebers. :) Think of it as just a string of chances that never followed through. Patience is a virtue. :D

angel nympho

08-22-2002, 01:47 PM

It depends on the guy. If there were two guys, both carbon copies of each other... exact same looks, exact same personality, exact same EVERYTHING.... but one was 5 and the other was 5' 10"... I'd pick the taller one.

But it's not hard for a guy to be taller than me. I'm like... 5. The guy I'm seeing now is like 6... perfect hugging height, and I can stand in front of him without having to rearrange our heads to make sure they're not bumping.

Saiko

08-22-2002, 01:49 PM

I love tall guys, but it doesn't matter all that much. I'd just muchly prefer if the guy I'd be dating would be taller than me at least by half an inch. But I wouldn't go around measuring every potential mate. :blink:

LIBRAGAL1011

08-22-2002, 03:35 PM

:o Well, I'm shorter than short. So, height for me doesn't make a difference. Most guys are gonna be taller than me. I don't think I have any major dilemmas in the height area. hehe... ALTHO, I think too tall could be uncomfortable--straining my neck to look up! ugh! JK! :rolleyes:

tapestrybabe

08-22-2002, 04:13 PM

well... i'm only 4'10"...
so, i find that mostly everyone else is taller than me anyways.. would i reject in dating a guy whose shorter than me... no, but i admit... it would be unusual...

krissy

08-23-2002, 12:33 AM

Yes - tall is good :) - but certainly isn't everything. Apparently my mom cares more than I do - she recently commented that she always thought I'd have found someone taller than my exboyfriend (he's only 5'9"). I guess if height were the only thing, I probably wouldn't want to go shorter than that - but it's just not that important. For me it's all about the face & personality.

Arex

08-23-2002, 02:48 AM

Originally posted by krissy@Aug 22 2002, 11:33 PM
For me it's all about the face & personality.

Priority wise, is it face first or personality first?=)

RX

krissy

08-24-2002, 02:09 AM

Originally posted by Arex@Aug 23 2002, 01:48 AM
Originally posted by krissy@Aug 22 2002, 11:33 PM
For me it's all about the face & personality.

Priority wise, is it face first or personality first?=)

RX
Priorities for what? Sorry for the confusion - perhaps 2 different things. Well, I guess if we're talking about physical attributes (like the height thing or a pretty face) that would make a girl more likely to talk to a boy in the first place, then perhaps the face would be requisite - assuming she's not psychic and has to talk with the boy in order to get a sense of his personality.

Or maybe it's just 'cause I like to think that a nice, warm, happy person's face would show that he is such. So a pretty face might make me more inclined to talk to it initially, but the personality behind it would keep me talking.

Shuriken

08-24-2002, 03:07 PM

Did anyone happen to see 20/20 on TV last night? John Stossel did a special report on "lookism" (a.k.a. "looksism"): judging people by their appearance. One of the show's segments included a report on short men. The show's definition of a "short" man was anyone 5'6" or under. As an experiment, the show got a number of similarly attired men, all about the same age, to stand in a line-up. All of the men were tallish, except for one who was only five-feet tall. Then, a group of women was brought into a room behind a two-way mirror and asked which of the men they would ever consider dating. None of the women chose the five-footer. When asked why, all of the women said that he was too short. Even when the segment's reporter said that the short man was a doctor, millionaire, and best-selling author (which he wasn't really), none expressed an interest in dating a guy so short. One woman even expressed shock and sadness when she learned that the guy was "only" five-feet tall. As the segment progressed, all of the women shown in the episode said that a prospective mate must be "tall."

Now, as someone who is even shorter than the guy in the 20/20 episode, I ask again: Would someone please show me the evidence that women prefer short men to tall men?

Shuriken

08-24-2002, 03:10 PM

TRIVIA QUESTION

Q: Who was taller, Napoleon or James Madison?

A: Who's James Madison?

karizma

08-24-2002, 03:36 PM

>> im 5'1" but i like my guys to be at least 5'8"...5'10" is like perfect. why do i like my men so much taller than me? you ask...i really dont know...okay this may sound weird but when we're in a crowded area and you have a guy who's 5'4" or 5'5" he kind of...gets lost in the crowd...but when youve got a guy who's 5'10 you'll spot him pretty quickly...he'll be a little more...prominent?...why this mental image lapses through my mind every time i think of dating a short guy is a mystery to me...ive got issues. :lol:

Saiko

08-24-2002, 07:01 PM

Originally posted by Shuriken@Aug 24 2002, 05:07 PM
Did anyone happen to see 20/20 on TV last night?  John Stossel did a special report on "lookism" (a.k.a. "looksism"): judging people by their appearance.  One of the show's segments included a report on short men.  The show's definition of a "short" man was anyone 5'6" or under.  As an experiment, the show got a number of similarly attired men, all about the same age, to stand in a line-up.  All of the men were tallish, except for one who was only five-feet tall.  Then, a group of women was brought into a room behind a two-way mirror and asked which of the men they would ever consider dating.  None of the women chose the five-footer.  When asked why, all of the women said that he was too short.  Even when the segment's reporter said that the short man was a doctor, millionaire, and best-selling author (which he wasn't really), none expressed an interest in dating a guy so short.  One woman even expressed shock and sadness when she learned that the guy was "only" five-feet tall.  As the segment progressed, all of the women shown in the episode said that a prospective mate must be "tall."  

Now, as someone who is even shorter than the guy in the 20/20 episode, I ask again: Would someone please show me the evidence that women prefer short men to tall men?
Yeah, it's kinda sad for not so attractive and short people. That one guy on it was kinda dumb. I don't think he'd "pull every string he can" for the girl to get a promotion just because he liked her voice. Why not just stop being so obviously phony and say that it actually was based on appearance? There's nothing wrong with that.
edit: Ooh. I forgot. That one part where they "tested" the kids was kinda funny and pretty mean. "Who do you think would be the dumb, yucky person with no friends?" "The short guy!"

artsfartsyjanet

08-25-2002, 09:54 PM

Let me scroll up. I think I missed something here. :D

johnny

08-26-2002, 07:35 AM

I agree that tall is good short is not as good for a man.

I guess for my case only, tallness does nothing for me or maybe like CB said, I have no game what-so-ever. But that's not true, I'm a charmer but it made me realize that my look is not what girls between 19-24 go for, rather I get more attention from late 20's and early thirties women <_< (not that I don't mind but I like younger).

Too bad I look in the mirror and I say to myself what a waste of height!!! Sure could put it to better use :P

Also, personally when I meet girls I'm attracted to all they say is "wow ur so tall" like that's all I have going for me? I also get a lot of "you're so tall and so skinny, you need to eat more" :(

DaBestSpooner

08-26-2002, 08:36 AM

tall guys always have an advantage

I'm like 5'7-'5'8 and I have been told that I was too short, I'm like "damn girl your 4'11

and I know a lot of short girls barely 5 who want 6'2 guys.

I know like the ugliest tall guys and they have a better time with the ladies.

I notice this trend for the most part applies to american born girls.

my 2 cents

DaBestSpooner

08-26-2002, 08:40 AM

short guys have major advantages over tall guys

When it comes to doing things like skateboarding, dancing, tall guys look goofy and awkward.

shortguys do things with a lot more style

johnny

08-26-2002, 11:39 AM

Originally posted by DaBestSpooner@Aug 26 2002, 03:40 PM
short guys have major advantages over tall guys

When it comes to doing things like skateboarding, dancing, tall guys look goofy and awkward.

shortguys do things with a lot more style
i agree...like dancing

but tall guys are still much more attractive overall in stance and when modeling.... :rolleyes:

amietron

09-03-2002, 10:25 AM

HE's 5'10" 160.

kwalan

11-08-2002, 10:10 PM

Originally posted by DaBestSpooner@Aug 26 2002, 07:40 AM
short guys have major advantages over tall guys

When it comes to doing things like skateboarding, dancing, tall guys look goofy and awkward.

shortguys do things with a lot more style
eh, streetskating yes.

vert skating, no. tony hawk, and most of the hardcore vert skaters are well over 6'. bastids.

i'm about 5'7" with 1" skate shoes... so, yeah. most girls i've encountered prefer a gigantic guy... and i guess deep down i find it a tad comical that its like he has to pick her up to kiss her :lol:. glad to hear some women out there actually want a guy around their height, cause I'd like a girl to be around my height, or a tad shorter... I like to look straight into her eyes without having to til my neck. And I guess I'd encourage her to wear comfortable shoes/flipflops than psycho platforms that add eleventy billion feet to her height and then have her trip from them... :o

Bumping heads? what's wrong with that? ;)

angel nympho

11-08-2002, 10:12 PM

My boy is too tall for me to hump standing up. :cry:

unordinary.girl

11-09-2002, 12:07 AM

I do like dating older guys, in fact, now that I think of it, I don't think I have ever dated a guy that was not at least 3 inches taller than me :lol:

angel, you crazy girl!!! hahaha

I mean my bf is like 6"-6'1" and I'm like 5'5" so that kind of shows it right there...

I dunno why, but I just find myself attracted to guys who are taller, BUT they don't have to be a whole lot taller, just tall to enough so that we know and everyone knows that he is taller than me :P

LeahLe

11-09-2002, 11:18 AM

Yes I like taller men because it compensates for me being short ( 5'3"). He's physically capable of retrieving hard -to -reach objects in the kitchen cabinet. And hey, look on the brighter side, they are more efficient than using a step ladder.
:P Just kidding, beside viewing them in that manner. Taller men represent confidence and control. Don't you think so? I think so. Anyhow, I'm more attractive to them than shorter dudes. I think it's the chemistry thing and everybody's preference is different .

amietron

11-09-2002, 01:08 PM

Originally posted by LeahLe@Nov 9 2002, 11:18 AM
Taller men represent confidence and control.
if i were a short guy, i'd flame you for that statement. confidence is all a matter of how you carry yourself.

loserbutt

11-09-2002, 01:22 PM

short answer:

yes

kasia

11-09-2002, 03:13 PM

Originally posted by LeahLe@Nov 9 2002, 07:18 PM
Anyhow, I'm more attractive to them than shorter dudes.
do you mean that you're more attracted to them or actually that you're more attractive to them. :) kinda funny if you mean the latter - that more tall guys find you prettier than short guys...

Hanuman

11-09-2002, 03:48 PM

Originally posted by amietron@Nov 9 2002, 09:08 PM
Originally posted by LeahLe@Nov 9 2002, 11:18 AM
Taller men represent confidence and control.
if i were a short guy, i'd flame you for that statement. confidence is all a matter of how you carry yourself.
Exactly! I'm 5' 8" that's not too tall, but I'm not too concerned about it. It's all in how you hold yourself. The way you act can make you seem larger then life. I once told a friend I was only 5'8" and he didn't believe me, he made me stand up next to him to show him. He was like 'wow, I always thought you were taller then me'. See, confidence can make you huge!

On a side note; I have a friend who is this tiny, little bitty Laotion girl, who is 4'11" (she tries to tell people she's 5', but we set her straight). She only dates men taller then 6'0. I've known her over ten years, and that's all she's ever gone after. We joke around and tell her that we think she's got some weird kind of napoleanic complex, but what the hey, different strokes for different folks.

deez nuts

11-09-2002, 03:54 PM

Short girls with tall guys just looks weird. It looks like your taking your daughter out. It's a pet peeve of mine and I like my women with long legs.

Just wanted to throw my input in. Since it goes both ways sometimes. Cause alot of guys I know have height preferences too, not just the girls.

A 5'5 and under woman just isn't gonna fly with me as a long term girlfriend.

And preach on Tawee. I know alot so called "short guys" that have game and exude confidence.

angel nympho

11-09-2002, 05:22 PM

Being a short girl, it doesn't really matter if a guy is tall or short. 'Cuz either way, he'll probably be taller than me. And that's all I really care about.

tapestrybabe

11-09-2002, 09:27 PM

yeah, i guess you can say i prefer taller men... and i'm only 4'10"... so more than likely i'll end up someone taller than me anyways... but shrugs.. if i happen to end up with someone whose MUCH taller than me like over 6ft or something... or even a SHORT guy like my height or whateverz... and if i REALLY REALLY like them.... i'm not gonna just discard them... just cuz of our shortness or difference in height looks weird...

Hanuman

11-09-2002, 10:39 PM

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Nov 9 2002, 11:54 PM
Just wanted to throw my input in. Since it goes both ways sometimes. Cause alot of guys I know have height preferences too, not just the girls.

Yeah, that's true, most guys I know prefer women that are shorter then them. I like girls who are a little shorter then me too, but it's not that big a deal, I've dated plenty of girls taller then me. The last girl I dated was 5'10 (I'm 5'8") and it wasn't a big issue for either of us (you're all the same height in bed, hehehe).

And preach on Tawee.  I know alot so called "short guys" that have game and exude confidence.

Yeah man, it's all about the 'tude!

deez nuts

11-10-2002, 07:04 AM

Originally posted by tapestrybabe@Nov 10 2002, 12:27 AM
yeah, i guess you can say i prefer taller men... and i'm only 4'10"... so more than likely i'll end up someone taller than me anyways... but shrugs.. if i happen to end up with someone whose MUCH taller than me like over 6ft or something... or even a SHORT guy like my height or whateverz... and if i REALLY REALLY like them.... i'm not gonna just discard them... just cuz of our shortness or difference in height looks weird...
I agree and you shouldn't. It's just my pet peeve and what I look for in my long term girlfriends.

deez nuts

11-10-2002, 07:08 AM

Originally posted by Tawee@Nov 10 2002, 01:39 AM
And preach on Tawee. I know alot so called "short guys" that have game and exude confidence.

Yeah man, it's all about the 'tude!
Yup it is. This 5'6 Vietnamese guy I knew on my floor when I was a freshman in college, already racked up like 30+ partners by the end of the first semester. Every week, he was with a different girl.

enygma

11-10-2002, 01:38 PM

actually, i posted an entry in my journal about this. some of my guy friends have asked why girls tend to like tall guys and then they accuse the girls of being shallow and looking only at appearances. it's not like that, i swear. personally, i would like my husband to be taller than me, especially since i'm only 5'4". at the risk of sounding like a throwback to the 1950's, i think taller guys give a sense of security. yeah, i know that we're supposed to be tough and not under obligation to any guy, but you have to admit, it's nice being secure with a guy. :luv:

Hiroshi2

11-10-2002, 01:49 PM

If it makes you short guys feel any better, I'm 6'3" and I hardly get any girls. Height isn't everything.

Hanuman

11-10-2002, 02:10 PM

Originally posted by enygma@Nov 10 2002, 09:38 PM
actually, i posted an entry in my journal about this. some of my guy friends have asked why girls tend to like tall guys and then they accuse the girls of being shallow and looking only at appearances. it's not like that, i swear. personally, i would like my husband to be taller than me, especially since i'm only 5'4". at the risk of sounding like a throwback to the 1950's, i think taller guys give a sense of security. yeah, i know that we're supposed to be tough and not under obligation to any guy, but you have to admit, it's nice being secure with a guy. :luv:
True, sense of security is important.

but you have to admit, it's nice being secure with a guy.

Wouldn't it be even better to be with a secure guy? :D

flyjon

11-10-2002, 02:48 PM

i'm 6'0. i tower over all asians. lol

enygma

11-10-2002, 02:51 PM

Originally posted by Tawee@Nov 10 2002, 02:10 PM
but you have to admit, it's nice being secure with a guy.

Wouldn't it be even better to be with a secure guy? :D
tru dat. :lol:

kimpossible

11-10-2002, 02:54 PM

I've never had a thing for height. I just need a guy to be physically larger than myself. So something like 5'8" - 5'9" 150 - 170.

deez nuts

11-10-2002, 02:59 PM

It's ok to have a preference for guys taller than you, but don't put down shorter guys at the same time by saying taller guys exude confidence and control. That's the bottomline.

enygma

11-10-2002, 03:09 PM

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Nov 10 2002, 02:59 PM
It's ok to have a preference for guys taller than you, but don't put down shorter guys at the same time by saying taller guys exude confidence and control. That's the bottomline.
oh, i don't think shorter guys are less confident or less in control. if anything, they have to be more confident because because of the standards that society has set for men through media. guys, tall or short, who are not confident are just not appealing.

Saiko

11-10-2002, 04:11 PM

A 4'11" girl complaining about a 5'7"/8" guy? I personally think that height is average enough. Again, I don't date by height. It's just highly preferable that they're not shorter than me. But tall guys are good. Mine's somewhere over 6 feet. I forgot how many inches. It's kinda easy to distinguish him from the rest, since at my school, people aren't that tall and less than half are white. It's mostly brown and black skinned people. So everytime people ask me who I'm with, all I say is "The tall white guy" and they're like "Ohh." Very diverse my ass.

Elizabeth A.

11-13-2002, 02:45 PM

Who's to say that only women have a height preference? I'm 5'9", and from my experience, a lot of men, no matter what their height, don't like tall women. Must be something about the inability to look down on us. (I know not all men are like that, my ex-boyfriend was two inches shorter than me, but the idea is still there)

It annoys me to no end when women giddily exclaim: "I want a man who's bigger than me!!!". Why? Because that's society's stereotypical ideal and you should always do what society demands? Do you see yourself as a weak being in need of special chivalry and protection?

I've got a better question: How dumb is it to rule out a wonderful person as a partner just because said person is too short/too tall/too any shallow outside characteristic you can name?

Height is completely unimportant to me in finding a partner: I'd date a guy who's 5'2". The thing is, would he want to date me?

kwalan

11-13-2002, 03:47 PM

Originally posted by Elizabeth A.@Nov 13 2002, 02:45 PM
Who's to say that only women have a height preference? I'm 5'9", and  from my experience, a lot of men, no matter what their height, don't like tall women. Must be something about the inability to look down on us. (I know not all men are like that, my ex-boyfriend was two inches shorter than me, but the idea is still there)

It annoys me to no end when women giddily exclaim: "I want a man who's bigger than me!!!". Why? Because that's society's stereotypical ideal and you should always do what society demands? Do you see yourself as a weak being in need of special chivalry and protection?

I've got a better question: How dumb is it to rule out a wonderful person as a partner just because said person is too short/too tall/too any shallow outside characteristic you can name?

Height is completely unimportant to me in finding a partner: I'd date a guy who's 5'2". The thing is, would he want to date me?
I actually made a really special connection with a taller girl (she's probably around your height, but with her shoes, like 5'11"). I felt really comfortable around her with a little twinge of excitement and giddiness... and I had a crush on her for awhile. We're just friends now though. She told me she'd go out with me if I were taller... I'd tease her back and say if she were my height I wouldn't reject her.

She told me she had a huge crush on her physics TA sometime last year.

heh... ouch.

About a month later, she said she didn't like him anymore.

I think the thing is... that I'm so used to taller girls just not seeing guys either their height or shorter in that 'different light', that I really have reservations about taller girls as anything more than friends. More often than not, the feelings have been mutual, at best.

Would I go out with a taller girl? In a heartbeat. She could reach all those tall cupboards that I couldn't reach... ;) Hehe, in all seriousness... if I were to meet a taller girl who'd make me feel taller than I really am as opposed to talking down to me (in more ways than one), I'd be all over her. Well, as much as physically possible. :lol:

'tis a shame you are such a rare breed. guess that would make you... damn special. :)

luv

11-13-2002, 04:39 PM

Personally, I think in the long term, I want kids with some height. As far as couples go, tall guys with short girls, or short guys with tall girls, whatever... but a short/short combo doesn't appeal to me too much.

I'm exactly 5 feet tall, so most guys are taller than me, so I guess I don't have much say in the matter. However, I did get hit on a guy who was several inches shorter than me and I was way spooked (I am so glad my bf is taller than me). Makes me think if I would ever date a guy who is 4 ft something -- we would both be constantly carded and directed to children's section of stores. And I CANNOT date a guy whose shoulders are not wider than mine -- don't care if he's a bit on the thin side, but cannot weigh less than me.

kimpossible

11-13-2002, 04:45 PM

Originally posted by Elizabeth A.@Nov 13 2002, 02:45 PM
It annoys me to no end when women giddily exclaim: "I want a man who's bigger than me!!!". Why? Because that's society's stereotypical ideal and you should always do what society demands? Do you see yourself as a weak being in need of special chivalry and protection?

Since I'm the one who said that I wanted someone at least physically larger than myself, I'll answer this.

It doesn't have anything to do with chivalry. My husband is a lover not a fighter. If anything I'm an alpha bitch and he's scared of me (pa lao puo :D). The reason I like the size difference is, and I'm sorry to be so blunt, it turns me on. I like feeling smaller, I like that I have to stretch onto my toes and can barely wrap my arms around his shoulders. I like that he could encircle my waist almost twice over.

It's what I want for me. It's what 'does' it for me. And it's not just anyone who is physically larger than me that I want - it's this one particular guy.

Usually, and just usually, no one calls me weak without me staring them into a little puddle on the ground. I'm sorry that what I prefer annoys you but please don't call me weak. I want to be friends, not angry, but calling me weak based on my preferences in my partner is a good way to push my buttons.

deez nuts

11-13-2002, 04:49 PM

HH is far from a weak chick. She's one tuff chick. I avoid confrontation with her at all costs and I'm a big guy! I mean look at how she is p0wNz'ing SunWuKung in some of the threads.

**Ducks head in shame and pleads for forgiveness for speaking out of turn**

Don't THWAP me please. :ph34r:

Elizabeth A.

11-13-2002, 07:39 PM

Originally posted by Hello_Hapa@Nov 13 2002, 04:45 PM
I want to be friends, not angry, but calling me weak based on my preferences in my partner is a good way to push my buttons.
I'm sorry it came out that way, Hello Hapa. I didn't mean to call you weak.

It's just that when you've been hinted at your whole life by your family that there's something wrong with you and told by your friends that you should always always always wear flat shoes or you'll never get a boyfriend and just when you've met a nice guy he deserts you 2.5 seconds later for someone who isn't as tall as the average man and casual female acquantances who are all of two inches shorter than you are look up at you and actually say that they are so relieved to see another woman who is taller than they are it gets frustrating.

kimpossible

11-13-2002, 07:47 PM

Ah but then there are the men who *need* tall women. Like Chasiubao_boy, a hunky doctor. All of us are too short for his requirements. Except you that is. :D

Then there are men like monkey (okay that just sounded weird) - I mean Sun Wu-kung who like women taller than himself.

angel nympho

11-13-2002, 10:46 PM

Originally posted by Elizabeth A.@Nov 13 2002, 10:45 PM
Who's to say that only women have a height preference? I'm 5'9", and from my experience, a lot of men, no matter what their height, don't like tall women. Must be something about the inability to look down on us. (I know not all men are like that, my ex-boyfriend was two inches shorter than me, but the idea is still there)

It annoys me to no end when women giddily exclaim: "I want a man who's bigger than me!!!". Why? Because that's society's stereotypical ideal and you should always do what society demands? Do you see yourself as a weak being in need of special chivalry and protection?

I've got a better question: How dumb is it to rule out a wonderful person as a partner just because said person is too short/too tall/too any shallow outside characteristic you can name?

Height is completely unimportant to me in finding a partner: I'd date a guy who's 5'2". The thing is, would he want to date me?
The men I know LOVE that tall, slim, runway model look. My best friend is 5' 8 1/2" and she's never had a SINGLE problem with dating. Guys STARE and DROOL at her. When I go anywhere with her, I find myself wishing I was as tall as she is. I swear to you, men FALL at her feet.

If you ask me, her height brings with her an air of confidence and grace that she wouldn't have if she was shorter. I'm the short one. Instead of graceful, I'm "spazzy." Instead of breathtaking, I'm "cute."
^-- Oh, and for the record, she's just as clumsy as I am.

Fireblade

11-13-2002, 10:51 PM

Could be that she's friggin' hot too. :lol:

In any case, I would date anyone as long as their not too tall or too short. I'm only 5'7", and I always feel as though women will not date me because of height. But it's all the same bitch, bitch, moan, moan syndrome, because my friend who is definitely taller than me can not get a girl. He's tried, but to this date, he's never been out with a girl longer than 2 dates. It's all about attitude, and confidence.

Although if I were taller, I KNOW I'd have more game. Oh wells. <_<

angel nympho

11-13-2002, 10:54 PM

Originally posted by Fireblade@Nov 14 2002, 06:51 AM
Could be that she's friggin' hot too. :lol:

Well yeah, but she's not THAAAAAAAAAAAAT hot. Or maybe I'm just jealous.

artsfartsyjanet

11-13-2002, 11:00 PM

If I were taller, if I had longer hair, if I had less pores, if I were 10 lbs lighter, if I had smaller feet, if I had this much money, if I were younger, if I were whatever.... all these idiosyncracies. Ah the ills of society's ideals continue to plague our thoughts. I say its all in the way you carry yourself. It's not easy, but until you find yourself content with your own skin (accepting your perceived flaws what you can not control (e.g. height), then you're in charge of your domain my friends.