debut

[princess]

what do u think of debut parties? ever been to any? ive been to several sweet 15 mexican parties and 18th birthdays for my filipino friends. im supposed to go to one in a few weeks. i know that there are people who dislike debut parties because they signify a girls "coming out" and becoming a woman. any opinions?



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[Jenny]

Originally posted by princess@Aug 20 2002, 10:06 PM
i know that there are people who dislike debut parties because they signify a girls "coming out" and becoming a woman. any opinions?
Why would anyone dislike it because of that? I have no opinions about it since I've never been to one myself.

[bigwong235]

outside of a catillion, the only other debut parties i've heard of in my area were for ridiculously rich girls. seemed elitist to me, but i'm sure there are others that aren't so exclusive.

[SunWuKong]

moving to women forum...

[iris]

Well I lived in the southern midwest and we can debutante balls all the time in addition to cotillion. Eh, I went. Crappy food, lousy music, whatever. My best friend is a sorority girl at Vanderbilt and when I went to visit her, we went to a football game where everyone, I swear, was dressed in ballgowns.

[deez nuts]

NYC debutante party. Send em to me I makez them into a woman.

[iris]

*we had debutante balls.

we can debutant balls doesn't even make sense. :lol:

[lethal]

I grew up in the South and went to college at UVa.

Like Iris, many of my female friends had debutante balls to "introduce" them to the adult (and dating) world I suppose. There's nothing wrong with it. To each her own.

Football was also big. The students went to games dressed. I mean shirt and tie or print sundress dressed. Its the strangest environment I've ever watched a football game in.

[AliBabaIncorporated]

Originally posted by iris@Dec 15 2002, 01:42 AM
*we had debutante balls.

we can debutant balls doesn't even make sense. :lol:
hey, ever heard of the "edit" function? trying to bump up your post total, huh :P

Monkey King: see, with strenuous efforts, it only took me one day and I'm already FOBifying Iris. Now she can't even speak proper English.

[iris]

Hah! Shush Eric! Didn't notice till later. Time function on edit wouldn't let me go back. :(

Yah MK. He fobbed me, but good.

[kasia]

i'm not really familiar with the tradition. do they have rite of passage thing for guys too?

[Craig]

Originally posted by kasia@Dec 14 2002, 01:35 PM
i'm not really familiar with the tradition. do they have rite of passage thing for guys too?
Not that I know about.

[iris]

I haven't heard of any for guys Kas beyond cotillion. Usually just a thing for girls to present them as adults into society. Really nowadays just an excuse for a huge party and social recognition. Used to be a girl wasn't allowed to date until her "come out."

[SunWuKong]

Originally posted by iris@Dec 14 2002, 01:17 PM
Hah! Shush Eric! Didn't notice till later. Time function on edit wouldn't let me go back. :(

Yah MK. He fobbed me, but good.
oooohhh....

i'm next in line to fob iris!!!

[himura-dono]

closest thing for guys is what jewish guys have.

quinciera's used to be fun when i was like 13...then i had to go to friend's little sister's quinciera's and i started to get irritated cause there wasd nowhere to erm...have fun with their big sisters who dragged me there and the fathers and uncles watching me like a hawk.

[teaz0r]

i was a debutante. senior year prior to graduation.
i think it was a good experience. the mother of the
boy i was dating took like in me. so enrolled me in
berdette classes. i guess becoming a debutante had
it's ups n' downs? the bullshit rules? and the rather
romantic age old traditions.

but it was more than ballgowns and football games.
like i had to go do all this community service. i dunno.
it felt like a community-service-for-rich-kids club?
not that it was bad. it was just different. it's like you
had to follow a pattern of things. complete tasks.
if you didn't. you don't /come/ out.

it wasn't so much a big deal to be a berdette or a
debutante. but it was the cultural experience for
me. it's like learning to appreciate why people in
england love football so much...just that this was...
learning why it was nice to be a girlie girl.

but yeah. it was a good experience. i only wish i
could have appreciated it more at the time. but
i still have my gown. my very first vera wang.
i had my engagement dress modeled after it.
it was good fun.

[Hanuman]

How do I get invited to these parties?

[princess]

you have to be a friend or relative of the debutante or her family.

[VV o n g B a]

the only thing i know about them is from watching an episode of the gilmore girls. it seems waaaay elitist. damn... watching that pissed me off. i mean, what kinda meaningless, i got nothing better to do with my time than hobknob with rich upperclass snobs drivel is this?

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by princess@Jan 17 2003, 05:25 PM
you have to be a friend or relative of the debutante or her family.
so her friends go? So there's usually like a lot of single, rich girls at these parties? I wanna go, I wanna go!!!!

[princess]

haha but they all have escorts.

[applehead]

Originally posted by VV o n g B a@Jan 17 2003, 02:48 PM
the only thing i know about them is from watching an episode of the gilmore girls. it seems waaaay elitist. damn... watching that pissed me off. i mean, what kinda meaningless, i got nothing better to do with my time than hobknob with rich upperclass snobs drivel is this?
i can't believe you watch gilmore girls.

[deez nuts]

Originally posted by Tawee@Jan 18 2003, 06:06 AM
so her friends go? So there's usually like a lot of single, rich girls at these parties? I wanna go, I wanna go!!!!
It sucks...I went to my distant cousin's daughters ball. It was moist...buncha stuck up and snooty Upper West side/Central Park West Manhattanites. It was a snooze fest....lots of sugah momma's for you tho, but they all got this stick stuck up so far in their asses.

It's just a cheap excuse for women to buy/rent expensive designer gowns and show off. Only redeeming factor was that there was an open bar but boring people to drink with...I ended up talking to the bartendar the whole night. My fiance liked it a lot...you know women dig this type of shit.

Tawee, you can take my place and pretend to be me for the next one!

Edit: And oh my god, the women in there were so frigging spoiled.

[Adaon]

Originally posted by applehead@Jan 18 2003, 11:08 AM
i can't believe you watch gilmore girls.
Why not? Rori's cute!! :D

[mrazntre]

the moms is cute

[applehead]

the script is full of too much witty banter.
after like 10mins. i want to pull my hair out.

[Hanuman]

Originally posted by Chasiubao_Boy@Jan 18 2003, 02:10 PM
It sucks...I went to my distant cousin's daughters ball. It was moist...buncha stuck up and snooty Upper West side/Central Park West Manhattanites. It was a snooze fest....lots of sugah momma's for you tho, but they all got this stick stuck up so far in their asses.

It's just a cheap excuse for women to buy/rent expensive designer gowns and show off. Only redeeming factor was that there was an open bar but boring people to drink with...I ended up talking to the bartendar the whole night. My fiance liked it a lot...you know women dig this type of shit.

Tawee, you can take my place and pretend to be me for the next one!

Edit: And oh my god, the women in there were so frigging spoiled.
Thanks man, but somehow I don't think think I could pass for a jacked doctor. It's really too bad. On paper this is like the perfect recipe:

1.Rich daddy's little girl has "I'm old enough to have sex" party.
2.Rich friends and relatives are invited.
3.Open bar.

Too bad they're all snotty, I get plenty of that where I live now. Damn it.

[princess]

well other cultures have debuts that arent like the picture u just portrayed. in mexican culture, the girls debut at age 15. i dont like the idea of debuting so early. too young

[mrazntre]

why? they got like 4 kids by then...

[artsfartsyjanet]

never heard of a debutant ball.... duude, i'm out of the loop.. but it sounds like i'm not missing out on much either.

[nonamerasian]

I've never had one.

My sister-in-law suggested the family give me a quinceanera so many times before my 15th birthday hit, but nothing happened. When it was brought up afterwards, then it was like, "You should have told us."

[moJo]

i went to a friend's cotillion, when we were 18. it kinda reminded me of the one in film The Debut, minus the hiphop performance. it was a really big deal to my friend and her family. she had a group of dancers that she practiced with for months beforehand. she asked me to be in it, but i didn't have time...

[Shogun Empress]

what do u think of debut parties? ever been to any? ive been to several sweet 15 mexican parties and 18th birthdays for my filipino friends. im supposed to go to one in a few weeks. i know that there are people who dislike debut parties because they signify a girls "coming out" and becoming a woman. any opinions?



<!--EDIT|princess|Aug 21 2002, 06:07 AM-->Just another great reason to party and socialize! Get togethers can be a refreshing experience if you arrive with a smile and leave with a positive atitude. I'm shocked at the negative replies in this thread, but I guess some people don't like going out. Mabye they should organize a party specifically for anti-socials and hobbits. I'd go just to see what would happen.