do you act cute around boys

[kasia]

because you think they like it?

and by cute, i'm also talking about silly, clumsy, ditzy, etc.

and if so, why do you think they like it? is there behavior on their part that reinforces your belief?

just curious. share!

[Cipherous]

Well, I actually don't....and I doubt they'd like me acting ditzy, clumsy or whatever cause its just not my thang...ya feel me?

but then again, I am a guy.

[Deadpool]

Why do women do that? I think a lot of guys find that annoying.

[kasia]

Why do women do that? I think a lot of guys find that annoying.


k, well, let's start by addressing the first part of what you said.

"why do women do that?"

can you please explain what you mean by "that"? in other words, what have you observed?

[dragonlord]

I usually get this from East Asian girls. There's like this faux cute act that they do, like they were little girls and hamming for the camera or something. I guess they're mimicking the pop culture that pervades Asian entertainment.

So stupid and annoying.

[rice cracker]

I'm not cute in any way. The guys I hang out with aren't into it, and I'm just not built that way. My roommate does act silly and dumb around her boyfriend, and it annoys me to no end. Especially when she talks in a high pitched squeal. Ugh.

[deez nuts]

you mean "fa dia?" cute or cute type of cute?

i don't really like it, either. they're both kinda annoying.

[Cipherous]

I'm not cute in any way. The guys I hang out with aren't into it, and I'm just not built that way. My roommate does act silly and dumb around her boyfriend, and it annoys me to no end. Especially when she talks in a high pitched squeal. Ugh.

sorry it must be a habit of me asking this or something

Is your room mate hot?

[dragonlord]

you mean "fa dia?" cute or cute type of cute?

i don't really like it, either. they're both kinda annoying.

Is that what it's called? Yeah, it bugs the shit out of me to see a grown woman act like that.

[John0101]

Yeah asian fob girls do this a lot, mostly the japanese and chinese ones. You know, the ones that have been sheltered all their lives so they still act like a kid. I've notice they are also into that hello-kitty stuff and the thing that is Kasia's icon.

Personally, I don't really mind, but just don't act like your 10 years old.

[dragonlord]

Is your room mate hot?

Oh Criminey! Cipher, look at her, man! Who cares about her roommate?

[dragonlord]

Yeah asian fob girls do this a lot, mostly the japanese and chinese ones. You know, the ones that have been sheltered all their lives so they still act like a kid. I've notice they are also into that hello-kitty stuff and the thing that is Kasia's icon.

Personally, I don't really mind, but just don't act like your 10 years old.

Exactly! And, they'll pretend to cry and shit! And, they'll do it in public places like restaurants! So annoying!

[rice cracker]

sorry it must be a habit of me asking this or something

Is your room mate hot?

Yeah, ex-model.

[kboy75]

Well, there is something that Koreans call egyo... it's kinda translated as charm, but in a cute and annoying sorta way. If you've ever watched Korean movies/TV and seen those girls acting all uppety and cute, yet sometimes annoyingly whiny and teasing you in an helpless sorta way... that's egyo

when the guy says, "No, we are not going to see Legally Blonde 2, and that's that!" the girl will say "Oppppppaaaaaaaaaaaaa~!" That's egyo. Smile a lil. Rub a lil. Whine a lil. It is a secretly enjoyable (to some men) method of cajoling and coaxing men.

I personally am not a fan, but I know a lot of guys that are.

[shy]

i use to do that 'act' in highschool. looking back, i feel so embarrassed that i did...

since then, then answer is 'no' because from my experience, it never did me any good. either they thought i was weird or they liked me not for who i really was.

[Cipherous]

Yeah, ex-model.

oh ok, well I bet you could see this coming but

do you have any pics of her modeling career?

wait nevermind,I gotta study for finals

[kasia]

i do it sometimes - but more to amuse myself than to attract men.

[kasia]

oh ok, well I bet you could see this coming but

do you have any pics of her modeling career?

wait nevermind,I gotta study for finals


pm ricecracker about this.

let's stay on the topic.

[DragonKnight]

I find it annoying...acting cute. Gimme a chick that can down a 40...and talk about cars and pro-wrestling all day.

[hapakristina]

i'm still not sure what "acting cute" means though? i mean.. i'm kind of naturally clumsy in some ways. i laugh a lot and i have a way of being able to laugh at myself and i would like to think that i'm actually a fun/funny person to be around (haha.. someone on the boards IMed me lastnight. 15 minutes of chatting and we were busting up about our topic and just how candid i can be. basically, i'm not afraid to be honest and laugh at myself).. i definitely know i'm not totally girlie either. most guys find me to be a "one of the guys" type.. i can talk about sports with an understanding of the game as well as an interest to throw on some shoes and play a pickup game.

i really don't try to be anything when i'm around people. i'm just myself. some will like me, some won't. i think it'd be worse to know that someone doesn't like me and i'm not even being myself. so i just seek to try and be as down-to-earth and myself in every setting, some will like me.. some won't. can't please them all.

[applehead]

Well, there is something that Koreans call egyo... it's kinda translated as charm, but in a cute and annoying sorta way. If you've ever watched Korean movies/TV and seen those girls acting all uppety and cute, yet sometimes annoyingly whiny and teasing you in an helpless sorta way... that's egyo

when the guy says, "No, we are not going to see Legally Blonde 2, and that's that!" the girl will say "Oppppppaaaaaaaaaaaaa~!" That's egyo. Smile a lil. Rub a lil. Whine a lil. It is a secretly enjoyable (to some men) method of cajoling and coaxing men.

I personally am not a fan, but I know a lot of guys that are.


that makes me shudder.
seriously.
some guys like that. obviously.
i just can't bring myself to go that far.

[Emperor_Mike]

It's endearing if it doesn't annoy me. Actually, I prefer girls who are mature most of the time and also playful.

[TurDz]

I've been with a very mature girl before with really none of that cutesy stuff. In a way, I wish she acted cuter sometimes. I think it would've give me that small assurance I need in a day.

But I do agree that too much is just too much, especially when a girl makes it very obvious. I dunno, I'm always on the bus here at UCD, and I remember times where I'd just go *ugh* in my head when I heard a girl acting too cute with her bf or just some guy she's trying to impress. Annoys the hell out of me, or maybe I just wish I was that guy? ehh...not really.

[Green_Circle]

I wouldn't half mind if she acted that way to me personally just to get the advantage. But if she acts that way all the time around all the guys then that means trouble. It has become part of her game and eventually, her personality.

[Chester]

Since all the other guys are invading the thread, this is what I think: if a girl is hot enough, the ditz act might not be enough of a detraction to matter. But it's never a plus. Moronic incompetence is never an appealing trait. The reverse almost always is.

Deep, tragic pathos, however (i.e. Marilyn Monroe) does have a certain demented appeal to it.

[mrazntre]

i do it sometimes - but more to amuse myself than to attract men.

this asshole amuses me.










oh wait i meant

this also amuses me.

[golden_buns]

i use to do that 'act' in highschool. looking back, i feel so embarrassed that i did...


Once you have your baby you and your hubby will go back to that stage, if not worse.

Poor thing, he/she will have to put up with 2 grown ups saying the silliest things to him/her

[golden_buns]

that makes me shudder.
seriously.
some guys like that. obviously.
i just can't bring myself to go that far.

that's cuz you've reach the ajumma stage.

[applehead]

that's cuz you've reach the ajumma stage.
HHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA
EEEEEEEEEEEW
SHADDUP.

[stunninglyAsian]

I love that egyo stuff. I used to hate it when I first heard all these "OOOOOOOPPPPPPAAAAAHHHHH!" whines. But then I saw the amazing power of the egyo. And thought, if a girl can do that, why can't a man use the egyo? So I would joke around with my noona and say "Noooona! Bbahp sahjoh!"

And it worked! I'm so cute! Tee-hee!
OK... that last part was kinda jinguhroh (disgusting)

[deez nuts]

that's cuz you've reach the ajumma stage.


hahahahahaha

[deez nuts]

Well, there is something that Koreans call egyo... it's kinda translated as charm, but in a cute and annoying sorta way. If you've ever watched Korean movies/TV and seen those girls acting all uppety and cute, yet sometimes annoyingly whiny and teasing you in an helpless sorta way... that's egyo

when the guy says, "No, we are not going to see Legally Blonde 2, and that's that!" the girl will say "Oppppppaaaaaaaaaaaaa~!" That's egyo. Smile a lil. Rub a lil. Whine a lil. It is a secretly enjoyable (to some men) method of cajoling and coaxing men.

I personally am not a fan, but I know a lot of guys that are.

yeah, i hate that, it gives me goosebumps and makes me wanna throw up. it's called "fa dia" in mandarin.

excessive cuteness in a woman just turns me off.

[VV o n g B a]

there was a thread on a similar topic a while back. i don't mind a little whining in a cute voice when a girl is trying to get something, but the stupidity thing pisses me off.

[Rogmok]

i'm not korean... but my experience is that there isn't much a girl can't get a guy to do just by calling him "opah.."

anyway, i'm like the rest of the guys here. I find the whiny/high pitched voice thing extremely annoying. I usually associate it w/ spoiled.. princess type personality.

But there are 'cutsy' things that i don't mind when a girl does... y'know.. stuff that reassures me that she's the girl and i'm the guy type of thing.

[shy]

Once you have your baby you and your hubby will go back to that stage, if not worse.

Poor thing, he/she will have to put up with 2 grown ups saying the silliest things to him/her

that should be interesting... i wonder what i will be like?

up until now, i can't even do baby talk with babies! i talk to them as if they are like an adult. like "hey... how's your day been?" i simply feel stupid doing the baby talk with them... even if no one is around!

it worries me that i'll make a weird mother...

[teaz0r]

if i ever project "cuteness",
i don't do it on purpose. i pout
though. a lot. but only with certain
people, because i /know/ i'll get
away with it.

[rice cracker]

i'm not korean... but my experience is that there isn't much a girl can't get a guy to do just by calling him "opah.."


Interesting. *jots down*

[moJo]

if by cute, you mean sacrastic, insulting, and goofy, then yeah, i "act cute" around guys. i'm more likely to punch a guy in the arm rather than cuddle up to him as my way of flirting. some of my guy friends are scared of me. :biggrin:

[artsfartsyjanet]

i never try to act "cute" (defined by kasia) around boys. I hate talkinga bout my cousin, but she tried to teach me early in my adolescent hood that I should act ditzy and clumsy...or stupid b/c guys like that. I never bought that mainly b/c i can't act that way. I wouldn't feel like myself.

[DragonKnight]

some of my guy friends are scared of me. :biggrin:
Heh, that's cool. I used to date a girl that my friends eventually nicknamed the 'Angel of Death.' :eek:

[kboy75]

Interesting. *jots down*
yes, but you must do it a certain way....

like while you say it all drawn out, lean against him, and hug his arm, and lookup at him with the puppy dog eyes and bat some eye lashes..... *shudder*

[Fireblade]

Bleh... girls who try to act cute ALL the time irritate me. I mean, there are times when a girl will do something cute, or say something cute, but she never MEANT for it to be cute, and you can appreciate it. If you do things gracefully or in this way, "cute" and it's not on purpose, then you can appreciate it more. But if a girl goes out of her way to act the same thing ALL the time, it'll get annoying.

That's why I mention punting little baby golden retrievers over goal posts whenever a girl does that.

Oh yea... I hate the word "oppa". For further details, PM me, because it's just too damn embarassing to talk about. >_<

[dragonlord]

yes, but you must do it a certain way....

like while you say it all drawn out, lean against him, and hug his arm, and lookup at him with the puppy dog eyes and bat some eye lashes..... *shudder*

Well shit! I'm sold!

[rice cracker]

yes, but you must do it a certain way....

like while you say it all drawn out, lean against him, and hug his arm, and lookup at him with the puppy dog eyes and bat some eye lashes..... *shudder*

Say it drawn out...check
Hug arm...check
Puppy dog eyes...check
Eyelash batting...check

Yes, I can do all these things. Muahahahaha!

[kboy75]

Say it drawn out...check
Hug arm...check
Puppy dog eyes...check
Eyelash batting...check

Yes, I can do all these things. Muahahahaha!
what have i done.

[DragonKnight]

what have i done.
Yer fault...shame...shame...shame...

[HeyaB!]

Used to know a girl who did that stuff on purpose, when she wanted somthing she'd flip the 'Hello Kitty' switch and be all whiney and mewing, but that was only because she needed to let Mr Oblivious (moi) know she really wanted something. I knew what it meant and it helped communication.

Then again, I have to admit to having used the ol' 10 year old plead'n'beg on occasion.
"pleazze, pretty pleazze, can we? can we? pleeaaazzee! awwww, why not?"

[mr. x]

much more so from the short girls. and im talking short short girls.

[Red_Matrix]

[/i]when the guy says, "No, we are not going to see Legally Blonde 2, and that's that!" the girl will say "Oppppppaaaaaaaaaaaaa~!" That's egyo. Smile a lil. Rub a lil. Whine a lil. It is a secretly enjoyable (to some men) method of cajoling and coaxing men.

I know these types...eck!

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Too bad us guys don't have a specialized method of cajoling or persuading women so that we can have our way. Well we do...but...I think it's called rape.

[d-boy]

i lived in korea for a few years. at first, the whole "oppa" cry was super strange and uncool, but it grows on you..... trust me, it grows on you......

[Napoleon Chynamite]

i lived in korea for a few years. at first, the whole "oppa" cry was super strange and uncool, but it grows on you..... trust me, it grows on you......

yea if you like Hello Kitty, Mashimaro (the Korean hello kitty) and bubbly Asian pop music

(no offense if anyone out there likes bubbly Asian pop or Mashimaro or Hello Kitty)

Edit: PS where is our Chinese version of hello kitty or mashimaro? We need a mascot that's not like a ripoff...I suggest Chang the Panda, and his figures can come with bowls of dumplings and fried rice as well as chopsticks.

[d-boy]

yea if you like Hello Kitty, Mashimaro (the Korean hello kitty) and bubbly Asian pop music

(no offense if anyone out there likes bubbly Asian pop or Mashimaro or Hello Kitty)

Edit: PS where is our Chinese version of hello kitty or mashimaro? We need a mascot that's not like a ripoff...I suggest Chang the Panda, and his figures can come with bowls of dumplings and fried rice as well as chopsticks.

i can't really explain it. at first, i didnt like the whole "oppa" thing because it just seemed like a way for girls to have their way with you.

but it really can become endearing after awhile; makes you feel all manly. i dunno.....

[Tao]

yea if you like Hello Kitty, Mashimaro (the Korean hello kitty) and bubbly Asian pop music

(no offense if anyone out there likes bubbly Asian pop or Mashimaro or Hello Kitty)

Edit: PS where is our Chinese version of hello kitty or mashimaro? We need a mascot that's not like a ripoff...I suggest Chang the Panda, and his figures can come with bowls of dumplings and fried rice as well as chopsticks.
where's ttchino's avatar when you need it?

[mr. x]

i was watching My Big Fat Greek Wedding and they always go "oppa!" so maybe koreans and greeks can get together and have a oppah party

[kasia]

Since all the other guys are invading the thread,


seriously - every time a question is posed for the women, all the guys jump right in and give their opinion. sometimes this may influence the women's response - sometimes they might not want to respond at all as a result - considering the negative attitude that the guys have put forth.

[Tao]

seriously - every time a question is posed for the women, all the guys jump right in and give their opinion. sometimes this may influence the women's response - sometimes they might not want to respond at all as a result - considering the negative attitude that the guys have put forth.
we're sorry, us guys are too chatty

[kasia]

we're sorry, us guys are too chatty

it's not that...sometimes i think guys feel more comfortable asserting their opinions about these types of things ...maybe b/c the focus isn't on them. girls, on the other hand, will have a more difficult time seriously questioning themselves.

[TyroneK(prettypretty)]

Kasie acts cute around me all the time.

She's into the teddy bear.

[TTChino]

where's ttchino's avatar when you need it?

I changed it to my ugly mug.

[etcj]

it's not that...sometimes i think guys feel more comfortable asserting their opinions about these types of things ...maybe b/c the focus isn't on them. girls, on the other hand, will have a more difficult time seriously questioning themselves.
Hmm..well I think the girls are perhaps just as self-contemplative. It's whether or not they feel stifled by the super guy presence on this thread or not. In that case, feel free to scream at the guys to back off. Now, let's talk about boys.. :biggrin:

[deez nuts]

seriously - every time a question is posed for the women, all the guys jump right in and give their opinion. sometimes this may influence the women's response - sometimes they might not want to respond at all as a result - considering the negative attitude that the guys have put forth.


yeah true. but, women also give their input in some of the topics in the men's forum.

[kasia]

yeah true. but, women also give their input in some of the topics in the men's forum.

yes, but they spend more time over there than over here. men, on the other hand, spend time in both. i think this is a reflection of real life, in a way. guys will want chicks, but they won't give up their guys. girls, on the other hand, will give up everything.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

yes, but they spend more time over there than over here. men, on the other hand, spend time in both. i think this is a reflection of real life, in a way. guys will want chicks, but they won't give up their guys. girls, on the other hand, will give up everything.

Well I guess it's just up to a matter of judgment or perception. I don't think that necessarily 'giving up everything' means that a girl is a better person than the guy who refuses to give up his guys, but maybe that's not what you were implying ^^ Offensiveness regarding the term 'ho' aside, the 'bros before hos' isn't just something guys like to throw around for fun (well...at least not to some guys like myself).

[coagulated fat]

Never will give up my girlfriends. Never!

[kasia]

Well I guess it's just up to a matter of judgment or perception. I don't think that necessarily 'giving up everything' means that a girl is a better person than the guy who refuses to give up his guys, but maybe that's not what you were implying ^^ Offensiveness regarding the term 'ho' aside, the 'bros before hos' isn't just something guys like to throw around for fun (well...at least not to some guys like myself).

i don't think it's just a matter of perception. through my observations, a lot of girls center their lives around guys whereas fewer guys center their lives around girls.

[Fireblade]

Question: Do you think girls act cute, because physically they aren't cute?

Or do they think cuteness will enhance their physical features?

[Napoleon Chynamite]

i don't think it's just a matter of perception. through my observations, a lot of girls center their lives around guys whereas fewer guys center their lives around girls.

But since it is from your observations, wouldn't that mean it's also from your perceptions, since my observations (as well as what I gather and perceive from them from them) may be totally different?

And btw, there are plenty of guys that center their lives around girls...

Shut up Janice.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Question: Do you think girls act cute, because physically they aren't cute?

Or do they think cuteness will enhance their physical features?

This acting-cute tendency is present in fugly as well as fyne women. Chances are they think that it will enhance their physical features or their appeal (in addition to conforming to societal standards), regardless of how attractive they perceive themselves to be.

[kasia]

But since it is from your observations, wouldn't that mean it's also from your perceptions, since my observations (as well as what I gather and perceive from them from them) may be totally different?

And btw, there are plenty of guys that center their lives around girls...



of course. through my discussions with guys, though - even guys on this board - many of the older ones have stated that girls are typically slaves to men until they reach their mid-20's. until that age, they're always trying to find ways to become more attractive to men, etc. etc. i'm not saying that guys don't do the same - i'm just saying it isn't their main focus.

and even at later ages, men seem to focus more on their career while women are worried about finding a husband.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

of course. through my discussions with guys, though - even guys on this board - many of the older ones have stated that girls are typically slaves to men until they reach their mid-20's. until that age, they're always trying to find ways to become more attractive to men, etc. etc. i'm not saying that guys don't do the same - i'm just saying it isn't their main focus.

and even at later ages, men seem to focus more on their career while women are worried about finding a husband.

hmmm...maybe it's just me and I'm totally different from other guys or something...but from my experiences, I see guys being total slaves to girls as well, no matter how much they deny it or try to act all macho about it.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Also...regarding how men seem to focus more on career while women are worried abou finding a husband...hmm I dunno. I always thought the stereotype was that women were more practical while men were focused on just getting laid.

[coagulated fat]

You know who has the acting cute syndrome the worst? Extremely short asian girls. They are always perceived as younger than they are, and always treated like the little helpless darling of the family because they are so small, and have discovered how to use this to get what they want. They're pure evil

[Fireblade]

You know who has the acting cute syndrome the worst? Extremely short asian girls. They are always perceived as younger than they are, and always treated like the little helpless darling of the family because they are so small, and have discovered how to use this to get what they want. They're pure evil

Dood... don't diss on all of your friends in Sac. :biggrin:

[kasia]

You know who has the acting cute syndrome the worst? Extremely short asian girls. They are always perceived as younger than they are, and always treated like the little helpless darling of the family because they are so small, and have discovered how to use this to get what they want. They're pure evil

i kinda agree with this. *amused* and i'm a short asian girl.

[Fireblade]

i kinda agree with this. *amused* and i'm a short asian girl.
You sure as heck don't act cute. Or cute even.

oh crap... don't cut my nuts off kasie. :frown:

[kasia]

You sure as heck don't act cute. Or cute even.

oh crap... don't cut my nuts off kasie. :frown:

i'd take that as a compliment, but unfortunately, some people in my life think otherwise. i'd still say that it's decreased a lot over the years. but this is only a testament to how hard it is to get to know someone over the internet. :)

[coagulated fat]

Dood... don't diss on all of your friends in Sac. :biggrin:
Oh, my friends are just average short (4'11, 5') I'm talking the ones that are REALLY short/small or took a long time to grow to a decent size.

[Fireblade]

Oh, my friends are just average short (4'11, 5') I'm talking the ones that are REALLY short/small or took a long time to grow to a decent size.

Definition please. :biggrin:

how SHORT?

[kasia]

Oh, my friends are just average short (4'11, 5') I'm talking the ones that are REALLY short/small or took a long time to grow to a decent size.

ok, maybe i'm not short by your standards. if 4'11 isn't extremely short, what is??

[coagulated fat]

ok, maybe i'm not short by your standards. if 4'11 isn't extremely short, what is??
Ok, 4'11'' is extremely short. But only if you have a really small build, too. ANd a squeaky voice. (shiver of disgust)

[Tao]

Oh, my friends are just average short (4'11, 5') I'm talking the ones that are REALLY short/small or took a long time to grow to a decent size.
wow, that's short! i don't think i've had friends that are below 4' 11. i mean you gotta be nice to girls under that height, shit i'll be nice just because i feel bad for them.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Height...just like the concept of 'race', is socially constructed i.e. the standards and how people are categorized differ from society to society.....but then again...we won't go there in this thread ^^ =P

But yea anyways, like, I'm 5'9" which is short for an average American guy, but average for an Asian guy, so it just depends.

I'm also 135 lbs, which is underweight in the US, about average or a little under probably in Korea or some other country that doesn't have as many fatasses as the US, and obese in Hong Kong (j/k).

[Fireblade]

Height...just like the concept of 'race', is socially constructed i.e. the standards and how people are categorized differ from society to society.....but then again...we won't go there in this thread ^^ =P

But yea anyways, like, I'm 5'9" which is short for an average American guy, but average for an Asian guy, so it just depends.

and that means by your definition I am short for an asian guy. I'm only 5'6 1/2" :biggrin:

[DragonKnight]

Crap, at 5'8" I'm fugkin mini-me...

One of my friends is 4'10". She's a little bundle of fun. :biggrin:

[rice cracker]

I'm big :( 5'7" of cornfed Midwesterner.

[tapestrybabe]

i'm 4'10"...
quiet...
ppl perceive me as younger...
and yeah, i've been known to act cute...
ppl end up perceiving me as all innocent...
and perhaps a little child like...
which i really dont mind...
and its not like i force myself
to act this way...
it just comes out of me...

it seems cuteness turns a lot of ppl off...
Oh wellz... you cant please everyone...

[Tao]

Height...just like the concept of 'race', is socially constructed i.e. the standards and how people are categorized differ from society to society.....but then again...we won't go there in this thread ^^ =P

But yea anyways, like, I'm 5'9" which is short for an average American guy, but average for an Asian guy, so it just depends.

I'm also 135 lbs, which is underweight in the US, about average or a little under probably in Korea or some other country that doesn't have as many fatasses as the US, and obese in Hong Kong (j/k).
when did 5' 9'' become average for asians? i'm 5' 9'' and i'm still short compared to my other asian friends....both abcs and fobs

[ChinaLama]

when did 5' 9'' become average for asians? i'm 5' 9'' and i'm still short compared to my other asian friends....both abcs and fobs

crap... i'm under 5'8.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

when did 5' 9'' become average for asians? i'm 5' 9'' and i'm still short compared to my other asian friends....both abcs and fobs

well i dunno it's just from my observations....it could go either way I guess...a lot of my Asian friends are taller than me but a lot are also shorter but I don't think 5'9 is short for an Asian guy. Once again, often up to whoever decides what is 'average'.

Then again, you might be part of a younger generation where everyone is taller. I'm already 24...so I grew up during basically during the 80's and early 90's.

[DragonKnight]

it seems cuteness turns a lot of ppl off...
Oh wellz... you cant please everyone...
Cuteness doesn't...acting annoyingly cute does. :wink:

[applehead]

hey if a big, fat girl acts all cute.
it's just annoying. period.
right?

[tapestrybabe]

Cuteness doesn't...acting annoyingly cute does. :wink:
i suppose...
but i really dont need your approval...
to tell me whats annoying and whats not...

[kasia]

i suppose...
but i really dont need your approval...
to tell me whats annoying and whats not...

sorry. no offense to dragonknight. but tj's response is exactly what i wanted to hear. can't we discuss issues in our forum without guys coming in and giving us input on what is and is not acceptable?

[mr. x]

hey if a big, fat girl acts all cute.
it's just annoying. period.
right?

i never see tall girls do it either. i mean they make act really friendly and stuff but they sure dont bounce aroudn like the short girls

[DragonKnight]

sorry. no offense to dragonknight.
None taken.

but tj's response is exactly what i wanted to hear. can't we discuss issues in our forum without guys coming in and giving us input on what is and is not acceptable?
*steps outside with the rest of the boys*

[golden_buns]

hey if a big, fat girl acts all cute.
it's just annoying. period.
right?

how about big, tall, old guys acting cute

Noonah! /*giggles*/

[BeTheReds]

how about big, tall, old guys acting cute

Noonah! /*giggles*/


What if it's Harisu?

[deez nuts]

jesus christ, here you go fellas:

http://forums.yellowworld.org/showthread.php?p=200696#post200696

we can discuss what is acceptable and what is not acceptable for women in the men's forum.

some of you fellas just don't know when to let it go and let the women be. .

[applehead]

how about big, tall, old guys acting cute

Noonah! /*giggles*/

ew.
that's just disturbing.

[dragonlord]

ew.
that's just disturbing.

Yeah! Like that kid! That Korean singer "Se7en". The boy can sing, but...<shiver>

[applehead]

he has a lot of ahjumma fans.
i think he's cute.

[dragonlord]

he has a lot of ahjumma fans.
i think he's cute.

Cute? Is that the appropriate word for...this!

http://img5.photobucket.com/albums/v14/dragonlord/Miscellaneous/Se7en1.jpg

Do some dumb-bell curls or something!...for chrissakes!

[rice cracker]

Cute? Is that the appropriate word for...this!

http://img5.photobucket.com/albums/v14/dragonlord/Miscellaneous/Se7en1.jpg

Do some dumb-bell curls or something!...for chrissakes!

He's prettier than me. I hate him. *hisses* REEEER!

[dragonlord]

RC,

Trust me, you've got nuthin' to worry about!

Kid gives me the creepazoids! I mean how metrosexual can you possibly get?

[applehead]

RC,

Trust me, you've got nuthin' to worry about!

Kid gives me the creepazoids! I mean how metrosexual can you possibly get?

don't hate!

[dragonlord]

don't hate!

^ Sorry, ajuma!

[rice cracker]

^ Sorry, ajuma!

Who you calling an ajuma, ajussi?

[Fireblade]

Cute? Is that the appropriate word for...this!

http://img5.photobucket.com/albums/v14/dragonlord/Miscellaneous/Se7en1.jpg

Do some dumb-bell curls or something!...for chrissakes!


I bet he gets hella ass though.

[dragonlord]

Who you calling an ajuma, ajussi?

You're mean, mean girl! :frown:

That was in response to this:
he has a lot of ahjumma fans.
i think he's cute.
and, it's apparent that she's a fan so...

[ric 3]

because you think they like it?

and by cute, i'm also talking about silly, clumsy, ditzy, etc.

and if so, why do you think they like it? is there behavior on their part that reinforces your belief?

just curious. share!


You hate sexism but yet you play to female gender roles of acting cute?

[kasia]

because you think they like it?

and by cute, i'm also talking about silly, clumsy, ditzy, etc.

and if so, why do you think they like it? is there behavior on their part that reinforces your belief?

just curious. share!


You hate sexism but yet you play to female gender roles of acting cute?

what are you talking about??? i think that the roles are dictated by our patriarchal society and - being social beings, many of us accept those roles. the purpose of this thread was for us to discuss whether we were aware of our acceptance of those roles. the first step? to admit that we sometimes try to act cute to impress guys.

[ric 3]

what are you talking about??? i think that the roles are dictated by our patriarchal society and - being social beings, many of us accept those roles. the purpose of this thread was for us to discuss whether we were aware of our acceptance of those roles. the first step? to admit that we sometimes try to act cute to impress guys.


AM talking about why you are mentiong such social candor/behavior roles that are bascially fueling the gender assignments of being a female. " all cute" how is that not a submissive role?

AWARE OF THOSE ROLES? so we are are talking about freewill of a woman who can be aware of sexual gender roles hence sexism that inculdes those gender roles

"act cute" being clusmy is cute? or is that a social acceptance role for a woman? can a man act cute? and be clusmt at sametime?

[kasia]

AM talking about why you are mentiong such social candor/behavior roles that are bascially fueling the gender assignments of being a female. " all cute" how is that not a submissive role?

AWARE OF THOSE ROLES? so we are are talking about freewill of a woman who can be aware of sexual gender roles hence sexism that inculdes those gender roles

"act cute" being clusmy is cute? or is that a social acceptance role for a woman? can a man act cute? and be clusmt at sametime?


i can't respond to this because you completely failed to comprehend what i said.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

AM talking about why you are mentiong such social candor/behavior roles that are bascially fueling the gender assignments of being a female. " all cute" how is that not a submissive role?

AWARE OF THOSE ROLES? so we are are talking about freewill of a woman who can be aware of sexual gender roles hence sexism that inculdes those gender roles

"act cute" being clusmy is cute? or is that a social acceptance role for a woman? can a man act cute? and be clusmt at sametime?

Er....maybe I should cut and paste this into Babel Fish and see what comes out.....^^

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Cute? Is that the appropriate word for...this!

http://img5.photobucket.com/albums/v14/dragonlord/Miscellaneous/Se7en1.jpg

Do some dumb-bell curls or something!...for chrissakes!

The guy looks like an airbrushed and surgeried, more feminine, Asian version of Ashton Kutcher.

[ric 3]

i can't respond to this because you completely failed to comprehend what i said.


Because it doesn't fit well with your model. Yoiu want to be all girly but yet you want a man to treat you as an equal. how is that not a contradiction?


"and by cute, i'm also talking about silly, clumsy, ditzy, etc.

and if so, why do you think they like it? is there behavior on their part that reinforces your belief?

just curious. share!"


IF so why do YOU think men like that kind of "cute" behavior? why do you do this gender female role of being more submissive one instead of being more upfront with way you feel. WEll men most certainly like that kind of behavior , so are you acting out or responding to gender social cues?

[kasia]

Because it doesn't fit well with your model. Yoiu want to be all girly but yet you want a man to treat you as an equal. how is that not a contradiction?

1. where have i said that i want to act girly? if that's what you've interpreted, then you completely misunderstood the purpose of this thread. and it seems you are the only one.

2. even if i am girly, why should i not be treated as an equal? why is that a contradiction? if i act like a girl, then i don't deserve to be treated as an equal?

[ric 3]

1. where have i said that i want to act girly? if that's what you've interpreted, then you completely misunderstood the purpose of this thread. and it seems you are the only one.

2. even if i am girly, why should i not be treated as an equal? why is that a contradiction? if i act like a girl, then i don't deserve to be treated as an equal?

1.
acting cute is not girly? how does that fit for a man? It most certain not acting like a adult more like a childlike. You most indeed implied that . NO am only who would talk about it

2.
NO, acting as an adult around guys is what I consider being equal not this giddy clusmy acting cute disposed social manner that women, including yourself seem to act upon as noted in your post. Why would a woman act this way? Can a woman just be upfront when around men?

[moJo]

2. NO, acting as an adult around guys is what I consider being equal not this giddy clusmy acting cute disposed social manner that women, including yourself seem to act upon as noted in your post. Why would a woman act this way? Can a woman just be upfront when around men?
ric, are you trying to say that women and men don't have unique characteristics and personalities that ONLY belong to one gender?

[applehead]

i think ONLY he knows what he's talking about.

[ric 3]

ric, are you trying to say that women and men don't have unique characteristics and personalities that ONLY belong to one gender?


They do , BUT WHY SHOULD WE OBEY THEM? doesn't that narrow us to play up to gender roles then? I most certain don't want a woman to act all CUTE around me becasue its kinda of a turnoff. I like confident women and acting "all cute" doesn't fit that does it?

[kasia]

1.
acting cute is not girly? how does that fit for a man? It most certain not acting like a adult more like a childlike. You most indeed implied that . NO am only who would talk about it

2.
NO, acting as an adult around guys is what I consider being equal not this giddy clusmy acting cute disposed social manner that women, including yourself seem to act upon as noted in your post. Why would a woman act this way? Can a woman just be upfront when around men?

1. i never said that girls should act cute. i never said that they shouldn't either.

2. i can act giddy or clumsy or however i want. it doesn't warrant men treating me with less respect.

[kasia]

i think ONLY he knows what he's talking about.

responding to him is like trying to shoot a person in the dark. you have no idea where he's coming from - you just kinda shoot randomly.

[Chris]

i think ONLY he knows what he's talking about.

Word. None of Ric3 makes no sense at all.

[ric 3]

1. i never said that girls should act cute. i never said that they shouldn't either.

2. i can act giddy or clumsy or however i want. it doesn't warrant men treating me with less respect.

1.
Why is this post directed in women forum #1. Second well yea the question
you asked is " women of YW , do you act "cute " when around men or boys. Is the reason why you do such an act in this way?
I never said girls should act cute either, but more like why do they perform this behavior ?


2.

WHy warrant a response then for this behavior. why are you seeking a desired and known outcome response then? as you mentioned in you post why do we( women) do this and why do men like this.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

1.
Why is this post directed in women forum #1. Second well yea the question
you asked is " women of YW , do you act "cute " when around men or boys. Is the reason why you do such an act such way?
I never said girls should act cute either, but more like why do perform this behavior ?


2.

WHy warrant a response then for this behavior. why are you seeking a desired and known outcome response then? as you mentioned in you post why do we( women) do this and why do men like this.

I'm sorry, your scientific jargon is too advanced for my comprehension skills and scope of knowledge. Please translate your posts into 'layman's' terms from now on.

[Fireblade]

1.
Why is this post directed in women forum #1. Second well yea the question
you asked is " women of YW , do you act "cute " when around men or boys. Is the reason why you do such an act in this way?
I never said girls should act cute either, but more like why do they perform this behavior ?


2.

WHy warrant a response then for this behavior. why are you seeking a desired and known outcome response then? as you mentioned in you post why do we( women) do this and why do men like this.

well. I think we do answer these things, but you don't seem very accepting of the answer. Unfortantely you don't see it that way. And with constant questioning, you just allow more confusion to seem into this thread.

[Chris]

1.
Why is this post directed in women forum #1. Second well yea the question
you asked is " women of YW , do you act "cute " when around men or boys. Is the reason why you do such an act in this way?
I never said girls should act cute either, but more like why do they perform this behavior ?


2.

WHy warrant a response then for this behavior. why are you seeking a desired and known outcome response then? as you mentioned in you post why do we( women) do this and why do men like this.


Funny the way you are typing is sneaky familar to one the people we've banned on RBJ. hmmmm.