I'm Easy

[purezero]

Okay, I know what I think an easy person is like. What do you think an easy person is like?

Because apparently, now my entire family thinks I'm easy, or at least easily taken advantage of. Why? The family friend I stayed with when I went to the East Coast told them that I was extremely nice to people I didn't even know. Blah blah blah. And my grandma (because she JUST NOW said that I was easy) thinks that I'm going to get raped and get pregnant if I ever get into a relationship before I get into college (or was it, before I graduate college?). Then they talk about all this bullshit that I don't even think applies to me (eg. divorce rate in America).

So is it THAT bad that I'm just trying to be nice? Yeah, I may come out overly friendly or whatever, but I know better than to let someone take advantage of me.

[kitty]

Okay, I know what I think an easy person is like. What do you think an easy person is like?

Because apparently, now my entire family thinks I'm easy, or at least easily taken advantage of. Why? The family friend I stayed with when I went to the East Coast told them that I was extremely nice to people I didn't even know. Blah blah blah. And my grandma (because she JUST NOW said that I was easy) thinks that I'm going to get raped and get pregnant if I ever get into a relationship before I get into college (or was it, before I graduate college?). Then they talk about all this bullshit that I don't even think applies to me (eg. divorce rate in America).

So is it THAT bad that I'm just trying to be nice? Yeah, I may come out overly friendly or whatever, but I know better than to let someone take advantage of me.

uhm... i think everyone develops cynicism or a survival toughness when they live on their own. i think you have enough sense to not fall for the usual traps. scare tactics from parents maybe?

[Tao]

i wish i were easy

then i'd get laid already

[mr. x]

geez, i think its your (grand)parents tripping pure

i mean...geez

i know a lot of nice girls and they are doing just fine from what i can tell. i mean its not like:

gangrapists: "dude that girls is HARD, let us go to that nice one over there"

[ChinaLama]

if your parents mean easily taken advantage of, well... i dunno, maybe they're overprotective. if they're saying you're easy as in anyone can get action from you, then they're fucking dickheads. Move away when you can afford it and don't return their calls. <ok maybe its more complicated than that if you need your parents support for education>

[nankanoen]

The family friend I stayed with when I went to the East Coast told them that I was extremely nice to people I didn't even know. Blah blah blah.

It could partially be an East Coast thing. I've found that in general people are more openly friendly down south. In Japan it kind of works the same way - people in Tokyo are a little less friendly, on the whole, than in Bumpkinville, Japan (Shikoku and Kyushu...my favorite parts of Japan). Of course there are always exceptions.

It's important to be careful, but in terms of pure friendships I've come to believe that what goes around comes around. Two examples:

1) Parents were in Boston visiting, went to a Sox game. Mom made friends with the people in front of us, not really sure how...I was sitting in different seats with my brothers. Turns out their daughter was going to be at Tulane Law the following year. My mom gave them our contact info "just in case something happens". Typical my mom. Turns out when they get here, the girls apartment deal fell through, they called my mom and she helped them go apartment shopping. The girl eventually withdrew from Tulane to go to BU instead, but we are great friends with the family. I spend Thanksgivings with them in Worcester.

2) Pipsy discovered my blog via blogsnob, left some nice words about one of my entries. Started reading hers, leaving an occasional message. Started emailing and whatnot. Now I've got a badass thai friend and webhosting! Woo. Not to mention a really interesting forum full of ppl.

So the moral is, be friendly, be extroverted, don't be afraid to talk to other people. Only by talking can you make some kind of connection with others. One of my friends said that "A certain level of honesty with everyone is important." I believe this. You'll never know what kind of craziness will happen and when you'll be needing a little support.

Anyone ever in Tokyo and need some help, holla! New Orleans or Boston too.

[nankanoen]

Okay, I know what I think an easy person is like. What do you think an easy person is like?

Because apparently, now my entire family thinks I'm easy, or at least easily taken advantage of. Why? The family friend I stayed with when I went to the East Coast told them that I was extremely nice to people I didn't even know. Blah blah blah. And my grandma (because she JUST NOW said that I was easy) thinks that I'm going to get raped and get pregnant if I ever get into a relationship before I get into college (or was it, before I graduate college?). Then they talk about all this bullshit that I don't even think applies to me (eg. divorce rate in America).

So is it THAT bad that I'm just trying to be nice? Yeah, I may come out overly friendly or whatever, but I know better than to let someone take advantage of me.

[TB4000]

....easy like Sunday morning.


Friendly doesn't equate with "easy." Might be associated with naivete according to some, but not easiness.

[John0101]

....easy like Sunday morning.


Friendly doesn't equate with "easy." Might be associated with naivete according to some, but not easiness.

good call, I have to agree. Maybe it's because your a girl, and people think that friendly girls are "easy".

[tvbdude]

you're not easy, white girls are

[mr. x]

man IM easy. ive given too much money to people in HS

anyway as long as u dont give too much w/o receiving something in return (at the least gratitude) you're fine.

[teaz0r]

Because apparently, now my entire family thinks I'm easy, or at least easily taken advantage of.

i think because niceness is so rare
nowadays you know? and i think
it's because ultimately adults will
always view you as a kid, they
probably still think you have the
judgement skills of a three year
old, so they just warn you. and
i guess sometimes their warnings
get a little... annoying?

iiiii think you're wonderful, and a
very bright young lady. there's
nothing wrong with being too nice,
it's not the same of being too trusting.
lots of poopie heads in the world nowadays.

plus, you can't be safe all the time,
if you never get burnt, how will you
ever learn. just becareful, that's all.

[Emperor_Mike]

You just have to get me drunk and I'll likely do whatever you want me to and not remember any of it in the morning.

Which is why I've stopped drinking heavily. That and my liver will love me for it. :cool:

[Tao]

You just have to get me drunk and I'll likely do whatever you want me to and not remember any of it in the morning.

Which is why I've stopped drinking heavily. That and my liver will love me for it. :cool:
cut the bs and change your sn to cockasaurus rex already.

[purezero]

So the other day I had a conversation with my parents about my views on relationships because they're rather squeamish even when I'm just hanging out with one guy friend (which makes me wonder what they feel about homosexuality).

Anyway, I thought I made it pretty clear when I told them I was waiting for the right person and don't plan to have sex until after marriage (they were going into all this legal mumbo jumbo about being a minor and dating, which I really doubt there are any laws about, at least until sex is present). But apparently, I guess he wasn't listening or something because what he said to me tonight just made me... really upset with him.

He'd always been complaining that we (my brother and I) don't listen to him when he talksto us. But goodness, this just makes him seem so much more hypocritical (to a certain extent, I've seen that a lot ever since I became a teen).

Pretty much he said to me, "Don't give out sexual favors freely. If you do, you should be ashamed. You are shameful."

Where in the WORLD did he get that from "I HAVE ALREADY DECIDED THAT I WANT TO WAIT ON HAVING SEX UNTIL I GET MARRIED." Where?! Is it some already pre-established notion in his mind that I'm easy, that I have whore-ish qualities? Or did he REALLY misunderstand what I said?

I mean, I have my mom as a witness because she was a part of the earlier conversation, where I made my declaration, and she totally understood me. She didn't hear whatever my dad heard.

[kitty]

i think whenever parents hear the word 'sex' from their kids, they freak out and think you must be doin' the nasty.

my dad warns me to 'be careful' every time he talks to me (aka, don't get pregnant)... even though I'm 22 years old and have been careful for 4 years already.

[purezero]

i think whenever parents hear the word 'sex' from their kids, they freak out and think you must be doin' the nasty.
But I said that I'm not going to have sex, so his freaking out is pointless.

Ohh. And you have 143 Karma points. That's cool. =)

[mrazntre]

you're parents are just afraid, that's all. I'm sure he heard what you said, but his mind is on one thing, so he sounds like a broken record. Annoying as hell I'm sure, but try to get through it. Parents become much better when you don't live with them and can actually be an independent person, but going home is always the best. Just don't stay for tooo long cuz that's when it gets annoying, like now.

[purezero]

Is it some already pre-established notion in his mind that I'm easy, that I have whore-ish qualities? Or did he REALLY misunderstand what I said?

I mean, I have my mom as a witness because she was a part of the earlier conversation, where I made my declaration, and she totally understood me. She didn't hear whatever my dad heard.
Apparently, my mom confirmed this as so. She said he must have been so upset that he had a dream that I said that or something. Because she was listening and no where did I say that.

[mr. x]

whatd he think u say?

[sdcheung]

Thats it..
I'm never having a Daughter...
Tooo much trouble.

[mr. x]

^--if i ever have daughters i want twins. thatd be pretty cool. i duno why.

[sdcheung]

^------------

eh..I'd rather have twin boys.
easier to handle us boys, from a fathers point of view. and they carry on the family name.
can teach your sons how to go pimping.

[deez nuts]

i thought this was a thread about you being a "one drink wonder"