Tyrannical House Rule

[purezero]

Man, this is just another one of my rants. I didn't think that I would rant in here for a while, but man, I'm just that upset.

I'm super tired of all this crap that I have to deal with, not only with my parents but with my grandparents as well. I realize that this is their house and stuff, but I feel like I'm kept under lock and key all the time. I'm so tired of it.

Lately, I feel like they've been tightening their grip, threatening to take away my "precious" Internet (or was it my computer). They've been stressing me out about schools. Now that I've finished applying to the UCs, they don't want me to even TRY to apply to any East Coast schools. It was like they told me I could just so that I'd be happy enough to get through the UC ones. And one of the MAIN reasons why they want me to go to a UC (specifically UC Berkeley) is so that I would be RIGHT there, so close.

I just want to be rid of this STUPID family drama.

Just now I had an argument with my grandma. I won't disclose any details because I'm not comfortable with talking about it. But MAN, I never would have thought that I could get all soap-opera-dramatic in CANTONESE. But the whole situation just made me feel worse and worse.

To a certain extent, all of this family pressure has been a downer on my schoolwork. Like right after applying to UCs, my parents started nitpicking at my personal statement essays and everything. I just shut down. I didn't want to do anything anymore. I haven't studied for anything or completed any assignments I need to have done. I'm dead to the school.

I'm afraid that I won't be able to get motivated again. It's like they accelerated my senioritis, which wasn't even THAT bad, because at least then I got work done. Now, I'm sitting here not doing anything. I'm chatting and typing in YW rather than finishing the rough draft to my term paper which was due last week.

A part of me just can't wait until I turn 18. I can just imagine myself packing up all my stuff and moving out. Of course I can't support myself yet, but I have friends who are willing to take me in, at least until I can get myself on my feet.

Arg. I'm just... ugh... right now.

[SunWuKong]

try to take it in strides. they criticise because they want you to do better.

[hooligan]

and it gets way better in college, so get out and move out.

[purezero]

try to take it in strides. they criticise because they want you to do better.
Yeah, but look where it's got me. Seriously, I'm sitting on my bed right now, starring at my computer. I just don't want to do it. I want to go to sleep. So how am I doing better? >_<

[hooligan]

Yeah, but look where it's got me. Seriously, I'm sitting on my bed right now, starring at my computer. I just don't want to do it. I want to go to sleep. So how am I doing better? >_<
you've got to be like my younger bro, do everything behind their back and suck up when they catch you.

[hooligan]

by the way, study outside of your house, with friends and have friends/college people look over your personal statements. make sure your parents know so they think you're getting help from people who've "made it".

do work with your friends especially outside of your house. the further you are away, mentally or physically the better you'll feel. i get the same way when i'm stuck in a space that i don't want to me.

if you're really motivated for east coast schools definitely do it. apply for a lot of financial aid as well so you don't have to depend on your parents for money. what are you WAITING FOR? GO FOR IT.

-ben

[SunWuKong]

Yeah, but look where it's got me. Seriously, I'm sitting on my bed right now, starring at my computer. I just don't want to do it. I want to go to sleep. So how am I doing better? >_<

don't think about doing good. just do what you need to do.

[younggiftedandblack]

You can't see it now, but they only want what's best for you. Speaking as a parent myself they most likely don't want you to face the hardships and mistakes they may have made when younger. Parents aren't dicks just to be dicks.

[purezero]

You can't see it now, but they only want what's best for you. Speaking as a parent myself they most likely don't want you to face the hardships and mistakes they may have made when younger. Parents aren't dicks just to be dicks.
I understand that, but man, they just make it way too hard sometimes. Is that the way it is? Making sure your kids live up to your expectations of them?

But man, sometimes, their reasonings are so... outlandish (I can't think of a better word).

Take my grandparents for example, tell me that I can't be in the same room with a guy or I'll get preggers. :closedeye

[John0101]

Show them some initiative and how mature you are. Show them how well you can take care of yourself. Then they will stop treating you like a kid and more like an adult.

[sdcheung]

Take my grandparents for example, tell me that I can't be in the same room with a guy or I'll get preggers. :closedeye

They are just protecting their "House"
I would too.
No boy will ever cross the threshhold of my house.
or touch my daughter till she is in her 30's..
yeah thats it. :) ;)

[kitty]

y'know... ppl can tell you that they're trying to do what's best for you, but sometimes I just don't give a rat's ass... your parents need to chill out, i think. I say do what you want as far as east/west coast schools. Make sure you ace the damn applications. Pick the best school you get accepted to, and try to just detox from like 18 years of being under house rule.

After you spend some time at school, they usually relax some what, 'cuz they realize you're growing up. right now, they're freaking out because you're essentially leaving the nest, and they're showing it in a funny way.

As far as personal essays go, you should probably have people other than your parents look at it... y'know more objective college, ex-college people. Hey look! a whole forum full of people!! :)

[ChinaLama]

ok stupid suggestion-- maybe you should just write one super sweet statement to show your parents, so they'll go awww and send in another one instead. :D

[hooligan]

post your personal statement already :)

[applehead]

i totally agree with kittygirl
and ziru. i know you're only 18
but you need put a little bit
of distance between you and your parents.
or it's going to get worse and worse.
move faaaaaaar away.
yes.

[TTChino]

It gets better =). Trust me. I was super senioritis. I had 30 absences by the end of November. =). I never had the parent suffocation since they worked like 12 hour days 365 days a year. But they were pretty damn controlling. But now? As long as I don't do something obscenely stupid, they don't care.

[purezero]

and ziru. i know you're only 18
>_< Meena! I'm not 18!

I posted the personal statement essay that needs a "third opinion" in the Portfolio section. It doesn't really need to be checked since the UC deadline has already passed. I could post my East Coast app ones later one though.

My parents are both unemployed, so I guess they have a little too much time on their hands? Oh well.

You guys are the bestest.

[applehead]

oh. hahahahahhaha
sorry.
*hug*
and ziru. if it makes you feel any better.
there are children who are dying for attention
like this from their parents!
okay. yeah. maybe that doesn't really help.
hahahahaha

[purezero]

Well, I'm on "lock down" as my brother calls it. My parents are basically making me stay in Dublin and take me out to school every day EARLY in the morning then take me back to Dublin after school or whatever their crazy plan is. It's SO illogical. They are complaining that they don't have a lot of money, and here they are wasting money on gas to lug me around. What a load of crap.

Oh man, I guess I won't be online much. So yeah, leave me nice messages and send me gifts. Haha.