What offends or irritates you the most?

[tapestrybabe]

I've experienced all these things.
Being called a Yellow Flat faced chink.. probably was the most detrimental to me.... I got a flat nose... and I had grown to be ashamed of it. I had trouble times actually facing other people in the face.. and i would often walk with my face towards to the ground.. looking at my feet...

Anyways, what offends you the most??

[Saiko]

I can't really say. All of them are offensive, and some equally offensive. There should be an option for "all".

[tapestrybabe]

Originally posted by Saiko@Aug 11 2002, 09:37 PM
I can't really say. All of them are offensive, and some equally offensive. There should be an option for "all".
Damn, your right..
Damn, I can't edit the poll...

OH wellz, while all of them are offensive.. there are those that hit more of a nerve within me more than others... that's of course, depending what context its being said in.. and whose saying it...

[Barbs]

people who say, "where are you from?" and when i deliberately pretend to be obtuse and tell them "here" , they'll persist and say, "no where are you from ORIGINALLY?"

alternatively, nasty old men who try to speak to me in various asiatic languages. ie: "Hey what ethnicity are you?" and if i say "Taiwanese" they'll say, "Oh, I've been to Japan." OR "Oh, I speak Vietnamese." OR "Thailand's a beautiful country."

Totally non sequitur!!!

[kimpossible]

Well, most people would be offended at any of the choices, or at the very least annoyed (like the chopstix thing).

Outside of the overt piss-me-off racist stuff, I usually get annoyed at the other things. I don't have to deal with it directly these days, I kind of outgrew my Asian looks (I'm eurasian for those that don't know) but it pisses me off when people are afraid of my parental in-laws just because they're Asian. This one lady we invited over just about jumped everytime we offered her something and always asked what it was like we were going to serve her ratmeat or something. She was extremely nervous until she left.

Then, this one chick who claimed to be a really good friend of my husbands told us she refused to talk to his parents at [one of] my banquet[s] because they were 'scary and Chinese' (I think she meant fob and broken English).

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[wylin]

being called korean, are u korean?, u sure look korean, etc.

its bothed me since i was a young child, im not a fukin korean is my normal response. Or does Lin look like Kim Park Lee to you.

i hate being called korean, because im not im taiwanese dammit.



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[Saiko]

You know how people speak to disabled people, especially the hearing impaired or something? Loudly and slowly? I remember going to the subway station and some lady was asking me for the time. She was like, "DOOO YOU HAVE THE TIMMMEE? *pointing at wrist*" I just said, "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOUR ENGLISH?" Shit, if you think the person's not gonna understand you, then ask somebody white. Apparently they speak English and we can't.

[ren28]

Originally posted by Saiko@Sep 18 2002, 02:46 AM
You know how people speak to disabled people, especially the hearing impaired or something? Loudly and slowly? I remember going to the subway station and some lady was asking me for the time. She was like, "DOOO YOU HAVE THE TIMMMEE? *pointing at wrist*" I just said, "WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOUR ENGLISH?" Shit, if you think the person's not gonna understand you, then ask somebody white. Apparently they speak English and we can't.
Say "it's 8 fucken thirty" and smile.

[angel nympho]

There was this old guy (old like... 70s) who worked at the grocery store I used to go to all the time. Since it was near my old work, I had to go there like almost every time I worked to run errands... so that's like 4 or 5 times a week, or so. But every time I saw him, he would be like "KO-NI-CHI-WAH!" Okay, normally that would be kinda offensive... especially since I'm not Japanese... but I really liked him. He was just trying to be nice to me, ya know? He was like, this really old guy who worked at a grocery store... kinda a lonely life, I'm sure. I think the people who saw him regularly at the store were really the only people he had relationships with... as impersonal as they were... Anyhoo, I'm sure he was just trying to say hi to me in a more personal way. I didn't have the heart to tell him I wasn't Japanese.

God rest his soul!!!!!!!!!!!!



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[Faithless]

Hey, how come there's not multiple choice here? :D

[sOKaLiBoY]

i get really ticked when ppl tell me "wow you speak really good english". well no shit what other language would i be speaking dumbass.

[Elizabeth A.]

"Where are you from?"

"Brooklyn"

"No, where are you really from?"

[DragonKnight]

Originally posted by Barbs@Aug 11 2002, 08:22 PM
people who say, "where are you from?" and when i deliberately pretend to be obtuse and tell them "here" , they'll persist and say, "no where are you from ORIGINALLY?"
Heh...that sounds sooooooo familiar.

"So where are you from?"

Here.

"No really."

Here.

"How about before?"

San Jose.

"Err, before that..."

Hercules.

"Umm..."

Okay, we used to live in Daly City.

"No really, ORIGINALLY."

Sheesh, okay...you got me.











Atlantic City, New Jersey. Happy?

*Person walks away even more confused than ever*

:lol:

[ChinaLama]

I'd proly be pretty pissed off if someone kept staring at me.

[pfc beansprout]

heh...man, all that shit annoys the fuck outta me equally.... :pissed:

[rakovlam]

You missed "Do you know karate?"

Nowadays I just say yes (technically, but that was grade school lessons) and threaten to use it if they ask again (that or I'll call my triad buddies over)

[tvbdude]

Originally posted by rakovlam@Jun 5 2003, 09:58 PM
You missed "Do you know karate?"

Nowadays I just say yes (technically, but that was grade school lessons) and threaten to use it if they ask again (that or I'll call my triad buddies over)
triads? whoa. what are they called? I kinda want to have some connections like that.

[Faithless]

Originally posted by sOKaLiBoY@Jun 5 2003, 03:37 PM
i get really ticked when ppl tell me "wow you speak really good english". well no shit what other language would i be speaking dumbass.
"Well, you know, Viemanese or something." :rolleyes:

You want me to speak French? :blink:

[rakovlam]

triads? whoa. what are they called? I kinda want to have some connections like that.

I'm joking. But I've enough triad movies to know what they do and then apply it in awkward situations.

"Are you Chinese?"

"Yes I am"

"Wow, you speak english very fluently"

"I can also speak Chinese, that way, I can get my buddies over and machete anyone who says that again."

[Tao]

Originally posted by ren28@Sep 17 2002, 09:52 PM
Say "it's 8 fucken thirty" and smile.
better yet say: "well it's either six fifteen or mickey has a hard on." :lol:

[artsfartsyjanet]

Originally posted by ChinaLama@Jun 5 2003, 08:23 PM
I'd proly be pretty pissed off if someone kept staring at me.
I don't like any offensive term, but I hate the stare too. I get it mostly from children who've probably never seen asians in their entire life. Children are children.... so I can't blame them, but I feel like staring back at them with big googlie eyes just to vent off. hehe

[Fireblade]

I hate the stare. Went on a trip down to San Diego with my parents on one of those asian tours...

anyway, we went to a mc donalds rest stop. The people working there were staring at us. Only me and my brother spoke non-accented english. So when we told them our orders, they looked really shocked, and said "wow, you speak english so well!" Me and my bro both told them we were born here.
<_<

Another thing that pisses me off, is that some people like to pull the family history shit on us. "Oh, well we've been americans longer than you people!" Waitaminute... so you're family came over during the mid 1800s? No? Ok, then shut the hell up.

[purezero]

Originally posted by sOKaLiBoY@Jun 5 2003, 04:37 PM
"wow you speak really good english".
Pshh...
"Obviously you don't. It's 'You speak English very well.'"
:rolleyes:
*shakes fist*

I try not to let those things get to me. Honestly, I haven't actually had many of those things happen to me, so I guess this one would offend me more. I know people who comment on my way of speaking. Honestly, I don't know the difference. I was born here, so the whole having an accent thing doesn't really make sense to me.

"Your voice is very Asian."

When I asked what that's supposed to sound like, she said,

"Very high pitched."

I think she's been watching a little to much anime, or something.

[ChinaLama]

huh? why is "good English" incorrect? Does "good" only refer to things?

[purezero]

Originally posted by ChinaLama@Jun 6 2003, 07:21 PM
huh? why is "good English" incorrect? Does "good" only refer to things?
I'm not sure. I remember hearing people being corrected on it all the time.

GOOD
Usage Note: Good is properly used as an adjective with linking verbs such as be, seem, or appear: The future looks good. The soup tastes good. It should not be used as an adverb with other verbs: The car runs well (not good). Thus, The dress fits well and looks good.

[ChinaLama]

That rule doesn't apply in this case, because good is modifying a noun, "English." surely "good" can modify nouns, right? like "good health," "good luck," "good luck."

There must be another rule, or all the people who make those corrections are retards who don't know their own language. That's a peeve-- i hate it when people pretend that their english is so good and then end up saying stupid shit.

sorry, t, i'm just generally ranting. not ranting at you in particular. :) but there's gotta be another rule cuz i remember ppl saying that, too.

[purezero]

Originally posted by ChinaLama@Jun 6 2003, 08:04 PM
That rule doesn't apply in this case, because good is modifying a noun, "English."&nbsp; surely "good" can modify nouns, right? like "good health," "good luck," "good luck."

There must be another rule, or all the people who make those corrections are retards who don't know their own language. That's a peeve-- i hate it when people pretend that their english is so good and then end up saying stupid shit.

sorry, t, i'm just generally ranting. not ranting at you in particular. :) but there's gotta be another rule cuz i remember ppl saying that, too.
Well, in this case "well" is referring to the verb "to speak," not English. I think that's how it works. When you say things like "You speak good English" I think it's an informal use of it, or just the wrong way and people just say it. Kind if like people saying "anyways" instead of "anyway."

Yeah, good is an adjective and a noun as well.

I take no offense. :)

[Uncle Tat]

ching-chong REALLY pisses me off

i fucking hate it when white/black/non-asian people say that because they expect us to learn their fucking language.

i say go fuck yourself.

[ChinaLama]

Originally posted by ti12amisu@Jun 7 2003, 03:30 AM
Originally posted by ChinaLama@Jun 6 2003, 08:04 PM
That rule doesn't apply in this case, because good is modifying a noun, "English." surely "good" can modify nouns, right? like "good health," "good luck," "good luck."

There must be another rule, or all the people who make those corrections are retards who don't know their own language. That's a peeve-- i hate it when people pretend that their english is so good and then end up saying stupid shit.

sorry, t, i'm just generally ranting. not ranting at you in particular. :) but there's gotta be another rule cuz i remember ppl saying that, too.
Well, in this case "well" is referring to the verb "to speak," not English. I think that's how it works. When you say things like "You speak good English" I think it's an informal use of it, or just the wrong way and people just say it. Kind if like people saying "anyways" instead of "anyway."

Yeah, good is an adjective and a noun as well.

I take no offense. :)
alright, that made more sense. :)

pwned by a hs'er. tsk tsk. i hang my head in shame. :(

[AngryABCGirl]

Originally posted by artsfartsyjanet@Jun 6 2003, 09:08 AM
I don't like any offensive term, but I hate the stare too. I get it mostly from children who've probably never seen asians in their entire life. Children are children.... so I can't blame them, but I feel like staring back at them with big googlie eyes just to vent off. hehe
The stare truly pisses me off. I'm told a lot that I'm unusual-looking, even for a Chinese because my eyes aren't "that Asian" because they aren't as dark and are shaped different despite double-lids and that my facial structure isn't that Chinese either. I also have really wide shoulders and am "tall for Asian" (5'7"). That's why people who don't live in places like LA and NY look even more. I think somewhere down the line my family lived on a farm near Shanghai and was somewhere else before. I have a friend who has the same look and body structure as I do and her family came from the same area too. I guess it has something to do with the fact that the most Chinese mainstream America first saw were Cantonese and Taiwanese and are use to people looking like that, though I'm not really sure about any of this.

[kayla]

I hate the Ching-Chong one the most. My last name is Ching and I guess it makes it seem even more of a personal attack.

In middle school, this latino kid said that to me and I got REALLY pissed off and pinned him to the wall by the neck and told him not to say it again. It was weird cuz I sounded so calm. But I, actually, we, got detention for it cuz an administrator saw and was standing like 10 feet away. But man, retaliation felt so good. I was damn proud to have gotten detention.

And during detention, he came in late and was about to sit in the row next to mine but decided to sit farther away from me. I thought that was kinda funny since I was known to be the nice, sweet, chinese girl.

[Faithless]

Originally posted by Uncle Tat@Jun 6 2003, 10:35 PM
ching-chong REALLY pisses me off

i fucking hate it when white/black/non-asian people say that because they expect us to learn their fucking language.

i say go fuck yourself.
And what language is that? The language of double-meanings? :ph34r: