"I'm not that good looking!"

[Korean Hunk]

Obviously I am not talking about myself. :D

But is this the attitude of too many Asian men? Do Asian men suffer from low self esteem because of the media's images or lack thereof of positive Asian stereotypes, social stigmas and stereotypes, some Asian women denouncing and bad mouthing Asian men?

I think so, but let's hear your thoughts.

[537]

Hell no, I'm fuckin' fine as hell.

lol

but seriously, I don't think it's a typical sentiment from an asian male or female for that matter to think they are unattractive. The majority of asians I know think they're either hot, fine, or fuckin' cute. Whether they are, or not, is a matter of individual taste.

[kasia]

Hell no, I'm fuckin' fine as hell.
but that's just cause you are.


actually, i think about an equal amount of asian men and women are not confident about their looks.

[Korean Hunk]

actually, i think about an equal amount of asian men and women are not confident about their looks.

But the difference is that other people will tell the Asian women "But you are good looking"(usually guys) which will boost their ego.

Asian men, who will tell us that? Our parents?

[recks]

I'm sure that there are a proportional amount of low self esteem asian men as any other ethnic type of men. Although I do think that the media's negative portrayal of asian people/men does do some harm, it doesn't to most people.

Anyone seen the FedEx commercial with the Asian Guys in the Factory? Or the TMobile/Cingular (I forget) commercial about text messaging with the asian female paired with the white male? Or maybe the ESPN College Gameday where they have the cheerleaders doing kung-fu flying stuff and in the end the coach is a chinese guy yelling... I'm sure stuff like this does affect people some..

[537]

actually, i think about an equal amount of asian men and women are not confident about their looks.

But the difference is that other people will tell the Asian women "But you are good looking"(usually guys) which will boost their ego.

Asian men, who will tell us that? Our parents?

C'mon KH, you know most asian girls don't have a problem telling handsome guys that they're good looking. I've seen plenty of asian women go up to a guy and let him know he's cute or hot.

[Cipherous]

actually, i think about an equal amount of asian men and women are not confident about their looks.

But the difference is that other people will tell the Asian women "But you are good looking"(usually guys) which will boost their ego.

Asian men, who will tell us that? Our parents?


my mom doesn't count? :retard:

[Cipherous]

C'mon KH, you know most asian girls don't have a problem telling handsome guys that they're good looking. I've seen plenty of asian women go up to a guy and let him know he's cute or hot.

What if the guy is too hot and too intimidating? Girls have to have some guts to do that.

[achtungbaby]

Anyone seen the FedEx commercial with the Asian Guys in the Factory? Or the TMobile/Cingular (I forget) commercial about text messaging with the asian female paired with the white male? Or maybe the ESPN College Gameday where they have the cheerleaders doing kung-fu flying stuff and in the end the coach is a chinese guy yelling... I'm sure stuff like this does affect people some..These are phenemonen of the last year at best.

[AngryABCGirl]

I really do think a lot of Asian-Americans have very low perceptions of their physical appearances, especially those we had to live without other AAs around. Meeting a lot of people like that has changed my perception of how the meida might really be screwing with our minds if you just pay attention to American stuff. I think it might be easier for women, just because some people might feed off the exotic image, although I think that's just kind of fucked up.

[Emperor_Mike]

Low self-esteem? What's that? :D

Actually, people should take a good look in the mirror and say, "You're a good person. You're intelligent, good looking, and gosh darn-it, people like you!"

[kasia]

But the difference is that other people will tell the Asian women "But you are good looking"(usually guys) which will boost their ego.

Asian men, who will tell us that? Our parents?


well, for the asian men who don't get told that they're good looking - are you sure the reason is simply because they are asian....or because they just aren't good looking?

i know plenty of asian guys who have a healthy following of girls.

[537]

well, for the asian men who don't get told that they're good looking - are you sure the reason is simply because they are asian....or because they just aren't good looking?


Exactly!

[teaz0r]

i totally tell boys that
they're good looking.
even if they're not.

[Fireblade]

Bah. Look at my signature. Personally I know I don't look TERRIBLY fugly, but I grew up not liking the way I looked. It's not really my physical features per-se, but I don't have nice skin. It's hard to explain, except that it peels and cracks from time to time. It was really bad when I was growing up from elementary school till I hit high school. So I kinda have a stigma that I'm ugly. I guess I'm better, but almost always I suspect that person is lying to make me feel better.

Still fugly to the core!

[NeoteriX]

well, for the asian men who don't get told that they're good looking - are you sure the reason is simply because they are asian....or because they just aren't good looking?

i know plenty of asian guys who have a healthy following of girls.

Maybe we shouldn't be looking at the attractive side of the equation...

Sure, let's say that there are equal numbers of ugly Asian men and all other races. Societal norms aside, people should match up to some kind of "normal" bell distribution, so yea, there are the haves and the have nots of beauty. :D

However, maybe the media influences people in a subtle way. Not that dorky white guys are anymore physically attractive, but that people are willing to see them as a multidimensional person, maybe give them the benefit of the doubt that he/she has a good personality, good sense of humor or something. I dunno. However, with dorky Asian guys, maybe people only see the stereotypes?

I dunno what it is, but all I know is that when any girl thinks that a dorky ( *grin* ) white guy is "cute" or whatever but a dorky Asian guy nerdy and shy, it makes me feel like poo.

Oh yeah, and I'll add that I think where you grow up and who you're surrounded by will make a huge difference. It did for me...

[golden_buns]

Depends on my mojo.

There's day in which I feel I'm hotter than Ricky Martin, and there's day in which I feel like the Hunchback of Notre Dame

[Napoleon Chynamite]

i'm confident that i'm not ugly...or am i really? *shrugs*

i don't go for guys that are way out of my ballpark (i.e. super duper hot guys). however, this one hapa guy who was a lead singer for some band really liked me. he could have had any broad that he wanted but he liked me. perhaps he was aiming low? sometimes i find myself aiming low, too... i'm scared of rejection.

i walk the fine line between self deprecation and modesty. my mother is vain when it comes to beauty. she would always nag about how my sister and i were bad representations of her. ew. my mom is mean. oh well.. she got herself a tomboy who likes videogames, fast cars, and guitars (me) and my sister (an open lesbian). sucks for my mom! we are not girlie girls.

i think i'm a 4.5/10.

you will never find me on "hot or not", "face the jury", or "find a pix"... ha!

I dunno if he was aiming low or settling for less or whatever. How hot or goodlooking someone is has very little to do with who or what type of person they would perceive as attractive. That's why you often see hot girls/guys with fugly or average-looking girls/guys as well as hot girls/guys with hot girls/guys depending on your tastes. Therefore, a hot guy has just as much chance of finding you hot as an ugly guy or average looking guy. As far as I can tell, standards and opinions of what constitutes beauty don't really change in proportion with how attractive the individual is.

[Emperor_Mike]

Beauty is in the eye of the beer holder, right?

[Korean Hunk]

well, for the asian men who don't get told that they're good looking - are you sure the reason is simply because they are asian....or because they just aren't good looking?

i know plenty of asian guys who have a healthy following of girls.

I still think the ratio of hot non AMs being told they are hot to hot AMs being told they are hot is still disporpor, dispa, disp, disaapa (A being e except after c) favors non Asian men...

[kasia]

I still think the ratio of hot non AMs being told they are hot to hot AMs being told they are hot is still disporpor, dispa, disp, disaapa (A being e except after c) favors non Asian men...


omg. for a second, i actually felt like i was in the audience of one of your comedy shows. *shudders*

[NeoteriX]

How hot or goodlooking someone is has very little to do with who or what type of person they would perceive as attractive.

Not true.

Psych and Sociological studies have shown that people are more likely to go out or choose a partner of relative equal attractiveness. Consider it like this, it's optimising your chances of successfully attracting a partner, while maximizing your partner's attractiveness. :D (like if you're a 7 on a scale of 1 to 10, in theory you'd be more attracted another 7 because he/she would be the highest and best chance that you would in turn be able to attract)

Of course, this is just one of many different factors that cause attraction. Other observable/testable factors like how much a person resembles your parents, proximity, symmetry, etc. play a role.

[stunninglyAsian]

Not true.

Psych and Sociological studies have shown that people are more likely to go out or choose a partner of relative equal attractiveness. Consider it like this, it's optimising your chances of successfully attracting a partner, while maximizing your partner's attractiveness. :D (like if you're a 7 on a scale of 1 to 10, in theory you'd be more attracted another 7 because he/she would be the highest and best chance that you would in turn be able to attract)

Of course, this is just one of many different factors that cause attraction. Other observable/testable factors like how much a person resembles your parents, proximity, symmetry, etc. play a role.

Is that study for both male and female or just male? All the girls I know only want a filthy rich, super hot, charming stud and that's what they only go after. Normal guys will come along and try to court them, but to no avail. Then when they find that one perfect guy, the go after him like AM on WM/AF couples. Catfights break out. The guy leads them on. And after they get heartbroken, they wait again for the next perfect guy. And ignore all the chances they have with other guys. To me, it seems like everybody has to date/marry up. Their mate has to be better than them. Why is that?

As for low self-esteem among AA, I highly doubt that. The AA I know, everybody thinks they're the AA superstars who think they deserve the red-carpet treatment and expect the paparazzi to snap pictures of them for the front page of the NYT Fashion section. As for myself, I know I'm not exactly panty-wetting material- never had a girl tell me I was good-looking, but I have had several compliments on my humor and other aspects of my personality. So when I date, I really don't try to make looks the dealbreaker because I'd be the biggest fucking hypocrite if I did.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Not true.

Psych and Sociological studies have shown that people are more likely to go out or choose a partner of relative equal attractiveness. Consider it like this, it's optimising your chances of successfully attracting a partner, while maximizing your partner's attractiveness. :D (like if you're a 7 on a scale of 1 to 10, in theory you'd be more attracted another 7 because he/she would be the highest and best chance that you would in turn be able to attract)

Of course, this is just one of many different factors that cause attraction. Other observable/testable factors like how much a person resembles your parents, proximity, symmetry, etc. play a role.

Uh...I don't see how these 'studies' can be valid since beauty can't really be measured like the amount of solution inside a beaker or whatever and is subjective to time period, specific societial messages and media, self perception of degree of attractiveness, individual attitudes, and individual preferences influenced by all of the above. There is no official rating system that assigns us all a number like 1 thru 10 or any of that. That's why some women (hot or not) can find butt ugly guys (just in my opinion) attractive.

However, I do believe there is some truth to the fact that perhaps some of us choose partners who not only live up to our standards of what we find as attractive, but also somehow resemble us because we've gotten use to our own features and have grown an attachment to them simply out of familiarity and looking at the same thing every day in the mirror.

[NeoteriX]

Uh...I don't see how these 'studies' can be valid since beauty can't really be measured like the amount of solution inside a beaker or whatever and is subjective to time period, specific societial messages and media, self perception of degree of attractiveness, individual attitudes, and individual preferences influenced by all of the above.

Well, true, but there is evidence for some characteristics that are cross-cultural. But that's besides the point. Regardless of the social norms, people with certain characteristics will be ranked in a certain way, and despite the fact that where they fall on the scale varies, that they and others with similar traits will fall together on the scale shouldn't. I digress.

Psychology is always a soft science, and you know that there are always exceptions to the rule. However, these studies that get published are peer-revied and the whole she bandg and the results are statistically significant -- that the results are caused by something (hopefully the test's independent variable) and are not a result of random chance. However, lemme briefly explain the theory and you can draw your own conclusions.

First, the theory is called, the "matching hypothesis." Take a bunch of people and their pictures. Then have everyone rank everyone else, lets say on a scale from 1-10. By aggregating the scores, you have a general idea of the relative attractiveness levels of everyone, as judged by their peers. Then you show a couple of the pictures again to the subjects and ask them who they would most likely ask out or date. There will be a tendency for people to choose other people of similiar relative attractiveness -- people are not going to choose people significantly more attractive because there is a high risk of rejection, and likewise with the less attractive because they're not maximizing their own ability to attract.

One study showed test subjects pictures of individuals (by themselves) derived from a database of couples. The subjects were asked to rank the whole database of people on attractiveness. It turns out that the people in a couple had a tendency to be have similarly ranked attractiveness. (and another study showed that the couples in marriages tended to be more similar in attractiveness than those just dating, go figure).

Like I said before, it's psychology, a soft science, so take it how you will, but there is some statistically significant influence out there... :)

[kasia]

i thought attractiveness was really based on the symmetry of your face. and that we do seek out people that kinda look like us.

[ChinaLama]

and that we do seek out people that kinda look like us.

psychologists call it "matching," but fugly people know, deep down inside, it's called "settling." or "the rich get richer and the poor don't even get children." :(

not calling anyone fugly. Sorry if that's how it sounds like at first.

[Emperor_Mike]

All of you should just start appreciating yourselves for who you are. It's that simple, right? You're all either very good looking or astonishingly ugly or somewhere in between. But you're still you.

Unless you visit a plastic surgeon. Then you're still you but with someone else's face. Like Michael Jackson, but without the scary skull-like appearance. Do I make any sense?

[Napoleon Chynamite]

i thought attractiveness was really based on the symmetry of your face. and that we do seek out people that kinda look like us.

I think that used to be true with me...I used to seek out rail-thin pale women with bony long faces...but that's a thing of the past...I'm mostly attracted to nicely golden or tan skin and heart-shaped faces with nice dimples.

[teaz0r]

i totally go after looks. initially.
but i like that whole, "didn't make
an effort but still looks so dreamy"
style. the hotter the boy is, the
more mesmerised i become.

there's this boy i hang out with.
he's like my quasi bitch. so handsome.
but so stupid. i totally like having
him on my arm and have him fetch me
drinks and what not.

and then there are those boys that aren't
physically quite as attractive, but once
you get to know them, their charm fucking
oozes out and makes them like 239842934
times wayyyyy cuter than physically hot
looking boys.

as for myself, i don't get boys from my looks.
definitely not that. but in the end i always
end up going for the charming boys. they're
wayyyyy more fun to look at in the long run.

[kasia]

did you know that psychological studies that show that people tend to think that they are better-looking than how other people see them?

[Korean Hunk]

did you know that psychological studies that show that people tend to think that they are better-looking than how other people see them?

You talking to me? :biggrin:

[golden_buns]

did you know that psychological studies that show that people tend to think that they are better-looking than how other people see them?

How do they come up with that? Do they use some sort of beauty scale for that?

[mr. x]

did you know that psychological studies that show that people tend to think that they are better-looking than how other people see them?

i spose i do both at the same time

well when i "imagine" myself in terms of ideal body image im really suave and stuff but at the gym im like "wow im pretty...wide"

then agian i tend to think im uglier than people probly care to think

[3stripes]

Probably the most offensive remark you can get is "You look good for an Asian". People think they are giving you a compliment but as you realize, how are they basing their standards of beauty? Heck, for sure not Asian. It's irritatingly stupid. One of my black female friend experienced thesame thing before.

[rice cracker]

Probably the most offensive remark you can get is "You look good for an Asian". People think they are giving you a compliment but as you realize, how are they basing their standards of beauty? Heck, for sure not Asian. It's irritatingly stupid. One of my black female friend experienced thesame thing before.

Haha, I've been told I'm pretty good looking for a hapa.

[Deadpool]

I honestly dunno if Im good looking or not. I can't tell. I was never an issue for me.
But then again I don't exactly make womens heads turn when i walk by either.
heh my mom has told me that I was ugly and I would never get married though.
She looked up at the ceiling and asked herself outloud why she bore such a fugly son.
Oh well.

[mr. x]

I honestly dunno if Im good looking or not. I can't tell. I was never an issue for me.
But then again I don't exactly make womens heads turn when i walk by either.
heh my mom has told me that I was ugly and I would never get married though.
She looked up at the ceiling and asked herself outloud why she bore such a fugly son.
Oh well.

wtf?!? even if its true (which it isnt!!!!) then she should be ASHAMED

[NeoteriX]

Haha, I've been told I'm pretty good looking for a hapa.

?!

Man, the hapas are the ones getting the most attention! If Asian women are exotic to society, hapas are 5x that... Kristin Kreuk, Michelle Branch, Keanu Reeves, Russel Wong...

If it's any indication, my sister wants to marry a hapa...

~NeoteriX

[TB4000]

i totally go after looks. initially.
but i like that whole, "didn't make
an effort but still looks so dreamy"
style. the hotter the boy is, the
more mesmerised i become.

there's this boy i hang out with.
he's like my quasi bitch. so handsome.
but so stupid. i totally like having
him on my arm and have him fetch me
drinks and what not.

and then there are those boys that aren't
physically quite as attractive, but once
you get to know them, their charm fucking
oozes out and makes them like 239842934
times wayyyyy cuter than physically hot
looking boys.

as for myself, i don't get boys from my looks.
definitely not that. but in the end i always
end up going for the charming boys. they're
wayyyyy more fun to look at in the long run.


teazor knows the dilly yo....as a light skinned, freckle faced 25 yr old black dude I don't rank up on GQ's sexiest men of the year listings, but damn it if my blatant dry wit and risque anecdotes don't make the girlies bat an eye on occasion :cool:

[kasia]

the best thing is to not dwell on your looks so much - i've found people who are simply just *comfortable* with how they look to be most attractive - and worth emulating.

[Fireblade]

Can we fish for compliments on this thread? =P

[kasia]

no post whoring. let's stick on the topic.

[applehead]

did you know that psychological studies that show that people tend to think that they are better-looking than how other people see them?

that's good isn't it?
kekekekekek

[Deadpool]

wtf?!? even if its true (which it isnt!!!!) then she should be ASHAMED
Sadly its true.
My parents are crazy.

[Emperor_Mike]

I think all of you are beautiful on the inside.

[Tao]

I think all of you are beautiful on the inside.
fuck that, i'd rather be beautiful on the outside and have a lousy personaility

[Emperor_Mike]

fuck that, i'd rather be beautiful on the outside and have a lousy personaility

Well, better than being ugly inside and out. Yah, I have a friend like that. He's about as attractive as a pox-ridden, half-dead camel and a cardbox box has more personality than he does. Smart guy though.

[applehead]

fuck that, i'd rather be beautiful on the outside and have a lousy personaility


:eek:

[Fireblade]

Being good looking, means being privileged in society. Therefore you can get more things in life if you are good looking.
aka = ppl like you more if you're easy on the eyes.

or

ppl will date you.

I have none of these things. :frown:

[missmeow]

Well, better than being ugly inside and out. Yah, I have a friend like that. He's about as attractive as a pox-ridden, half-dead camel and a cardbox box has more personality than he does. Smart guy though.

What a friend! :eek:

(JK)

[DragonKnight]

Obviously I am not talking about myself. :D

But is this the attitude of too many Asian men? Do Asian men suffer from low self esteem because of the media's images or lack thereof of positive Asian stereotypes, social stigmas and stereotypes, some Asian women denouncing and bad mouthing Asian men?

I think so, but let's hear your thoughts.
So far most of the Asian guys I know are pretty confident in their looks. I myself am pretty confident in my looks. But I can tell that the 'Asian male look' isn't the preference to the majority of females. We're just not as well publicized as Caucasian, African-American, and Latino males. So I don't think its the issue of being good-looking, but an issue of if we are the preferred look that females want.

[Emperor_Mike]

What a friend! :eek:

(JK)

I'm known for my generosity in words. :biggrin:

[Bhodi_Li]

I really do think a lot of Asian-Americans have very low perceptions of their physical appearances, especially those we had to live without other AAs around.
This is a very good point. Growing up in Hicksville I would get all the comments like "He wouldn't be bad if he didn't look so asian" or "if only his lips and nose weren't so big." Needless to say I didn't realize what a hunk of man meat I was until I went to Korea.

[robotic]

i feel the same way. in a sense, it is good because my esteem and confidence returns in a flash.

[hooligan]

i'm very, very hot. and i'm very, very easy. do me. now.

[stunninglyAsian]

This is a very good point. Growing up in Hicksville I would get all the comments like "He wouldn't be bad if he didn't look so asian" or "if only his lips and nose weren't so big." Needless to say I didn't realize what a hunk of man meat I was until I went to Korea.

Same here!
Except for when I went to Korea, sadly I didn't get the hunk of man meat treatment.

But I know I'm not good-looking (and I'm too skinny) and not because I'm Asian. The only time anybody's said anything about looks is to insult me. My style (I'm quite confident about that), gets compliments all the time but never my looks. Lots of girls say, "I wish my bf dressed like you/smelled like you/had a jacket like yours."

Strangely, I feel more comfortable around non-Asians. With Asians, everybody is so damn picky and with Korean girls, I can't speak Korean so they think I'm a damn idiot. My friend said that fobs find Asians that speak English perfectly is cool and a turn on, but let me tell you something... that is a bunch of b.s.

Whereas among non-Asians, they either a) don't expect anything from you because you're Asian or in the very rare case b) don't really care because you're Asian and that makes you cool by default.

[Napoleon Chynamite]

I don't think people's opinions of my looks changes at all from one culture to another. Either way it's weird.

[Kuchana]

Sadly, I felt ugly when I was growing up since no guys asked me out on dates but a very few and my friends had dates or bfs. It took a really long time for me to get over that and realize that yes I do like the way I look!:P

[Napoleon Chynamite]

Sadly, I felt ugly when I was growing up since no guys asked me out on dates but a very few and my friends had dates or bfs. It took a really long time for me to get over that and realize that yes I do like the way I look!:P

Maybe you went to school with a bunch of blind people.

[PropellerheadCP]

A lot of nice girls stay away from me, because they think I'm some kind of "player". I can only get dates with party girls. I know this seems retarded coming from a guy, but I'm getting close to 30. I want to settle down. I think my "look" is stopping it from happening.

That stated, I guess I'm pretty good looking, if my problem is people thinking that I get a lot of girls (which in reality, I really don't, since I don't like party girls).

[Kuchana]

Maybe you went to school with a bunch of blind people.

LOL thanks I guess :smile: Maybe it wasn't so unusual since the guys were white or black.


A lot of nice girls stay away from me, because they think I'm some kind of "player". I can only get dates with party girls. I know this seems retarded coming from a guy, but I'm getting close to 30. I want to settle down. I think my "look" is stopping it from happening.

That stated, I guess I'm pretty good looking, if my problem is people thinking that I get a lot of girls (which in reality, I really don't, since I don't like party girls).

That's not saying though that you want a good looking girl or no?
What is it that makes nice girls make them think you look like a player?
What's your intial reaction when party girls hit on you then?

LOL sorry about the 3rd degree hehe

[Tao]

A lot of nice girls stay away from me, because they think I'm some kind of "player". I can only get dates with party girls. I know this seems retarded coming from a guy, but I'm getting close to 30. I want to settle down. I think my "look" is stopping it from happening.

That stated, I guess I'm pretty good looking, if my problem is people thinking that I get a lot of girls (which in reality, I really don't, since I don't like party girls).
lol, maybe you should lay off the hong kong gangster look :biggrin:

[kimpossible]

A lot of nice girls stay away from me, because they think I'm some kind of "player". I can only get dates with party girls. I know this seems retarded coming from a guy, but I'm getting close to 30. I want to settle down. I think my "look" is stopping it from happening.

That stated, I guess I'm pretty good looking, if my problem is people thinking that I get a lot of girls (which in reality, I really don't, since I don't like party girls).

We'll need proof in form of a many pictures. My interest is completely scientific, of course.

[PropellerheadCP]

That's not saying though that you want a good looking girl or no?
What is it that makes nice girls make them think you look like a player?
What's your intial reaction when party girls hit on you then?

LOL sorry about the 3rd degree hehe

1. Nice girls can definitely be hot. It's all in the mentality, rather than the look. I'm relatively conservative, when it comes to relationships. Party girls are fun, but it's near impossible to have a mature romantic relationship with them.

2. It's my character. Actually, it's just that I'm very comfortable with females. Actually, even in terms of friends, I prefer the presence of females over males. That's not to say that my friends are all female. Especially now that I've learned that a man and a woman can't be best friends forever.
Anyway, most females find me very easy to talk to. I guess to a certain degree, a lot of nice girls expect a normal guy to be somewhat awkward with the opposite gender. I've heard many times that if a guy seems to know what to say, he's usually a player. Actually, I tell my female friends the same thing.
That, plus I know how to dress... once again it's associated with "players". Hey, I'm an artist with a day job involving fashion. I BETTER know how to dress.

3. I'll admit that I like getting hit on by hot party girls. It's an ego boost. Sometimes I let the girls take the lead (Actually girls always take the lead in any case; it's just that a lot of girls like to give the illusion that the guy's in charge) and I like to play it by ear.
However, if there are nice girls around, I always find an excuse to go talk to them first. If it becomes uneventful, then I make the best out of the situation and party!!!

lol, maybe you should lay off the hong kong gangster look :biggrin:

I see you've taken a look at my profile pic.

[golden_buns]

Same here!
Except for when I went to Korea, sadly I didn't get the hunk of man meat treatment.

But I know I'm not good-looking (and I'm too skinny) and not because I'm Asian. The only time anybody's said anything about looks is to insult me. My style (I'm quite confident about that), gets compliments all the time but never my looks. Lots of girls say, "I wish my bf dressed like you/smelled like you/had a jacket like yours."

Strangely, I feel more comfortable around non-Asians. With Asians, everybody is so damn picky and with Korean girls, I can't speak Korean so they think I'm a damn idiot. My friend said that fobs find Asians that speak English perfectly is cool and a turn on, but let me tell you something... that is a bunch of b.s.

Whereas among non-Asians, they either a) don't expect anything from you because you're Asian or in the very rare case b) don't really care because you're Asian and that makes you cool by default.


I also thought that people would think that I'm an idiot for not speaking Korean before I came, but I've found out that it's not like that with our generation. And since your Korean American that's a plus for girls over here.

[John0101]

One time after taking a shit I was washing my hands when the mirror suddenly caught my eye, I was like "oh shit, who is this handsome BEAST!". Then I started to flexing my muscles and felt myself up. I walked with my chest up high and my voice with authority that day.

Some people call me fat, thou.

[mr. x]

One time after taking a shit I was washing my hands when the mirror suddenly caught my eye, I was like "oh shit, who is this handsome BEAST!". Then I started to flexing my muscles and felt myself up. I walked with my chest up high and my voice with authority that day.

Some people call me fat, thou.

with your avatar? you make lara flynn boyle look like a fat pig

u know u coulda omitted the taking a shit part, which is not really impressive to the ladies...

[Tao]

with your avatar? you make lara flynn boyle look like a fat pig

u know u coulda omitted the taking a shit part, which is not really impressive to the ladies...
it adds to the mystique...it's like he's sexy even while taking a huge shit. I dunno about you, but if someone can do that and still be sexy, he's gotta be damned sexy!

[mr. x]

it adds to the mystique...it's like he's sexy even while taking a huge shit. I dunno about you, but if someone can do that and still be sexy, he's gotta be damned sexy!

huge shit huh....maybe thats why he's so skinny :biggrin:

[John0101]

it adds to the mystique...it's like he's sexy even while taking a huge shit. I dunno about you, but if someone can do that and still be sexy, he's gotta be damned sexy!

lol, Tao your right on the money I just finished breakfast and had a bagel (also had 2 whole eggs, 4 egg whites, 2 hash brown, few slices of beacon 1 cup of coffee and some water :tongue: ). School bagels always give me the mad runs, mixed that with some milk in the coffee I was blowing chunks from my behind. Regardless the mirror told no lie :biggrin:

[Bhodi_Li]

It took a really long time for me to get over that and realize that yes I do like the way I look!:P
It didn't take me long to like the way you look.

[Kuchana]

It didn't take me long to like the way you look.

awww....*blush* :redface:

[ChineseTourist]

What if the guy is too hot and too intimidating? Girls have to have some guts to do that.

it still happens