too much sex?

[boredlikewah]

so, me and my bf have been together for about a year and a half. when we first got together, err.. when we first started to have sex, we'd have sex whenever we got the chance. sometimes twice if we had the chance. lately we havent been going at it quite so often and i asked him why he thought that was. he said that we're just more comfortable and we're an "old couple." everything is all good, but the sex isnt always there anymore.

anyways.. how long do you guys think it takes before the sex honeymoon phase wears off? or does it ever? or are we just tired of having sex and need something new to do?

[sdcheung]

1 year is the sexhoneymoon.
then it's just couplehood

[golden_buns]

anyways.. how long do you guys think it takes before the sex honeymoon phase wears off? or does it ever? or are we just tired of having sex and need something new to do?


hahahahaha, that explain your user name

Takes me about 2 months max. to get to that stage

You guys probably need to change the sex routine and spice things up. Look for daring places where you can do it, new postures, sex toys, or lingerie.

[kboy75]

quite honestly....

if you do have a relationship with someone... and it's been a while that you've been together... and you both have something like school and/or work... anything more than 3-4 times a week on a regular basis can get TIRING for most people after a while.

if you're a teenager it's different. also if your relationship is very new.

as to the too-much-sex thing... yeah anything can get old. but i still think sex is a very important part... VERY. you gotta change things up and spice it up a little. i think that as we get older, we do tend to think that random sex can be overrated and that sex at every opportune time (just for the sake of having sex or because of boredom) loses it's appeal.

that said, if the sex is hot then i'm all for it. if it's hot with someone you're hot for, then i'm for that too. that never gets old.

if sex has lost it's appeal, then you need to find a new partner or you need to try new things in your sex life...

[boredlikewah]

nothing's wrong with our relationship. it's going pretty great actually. there hasnt been any drama for a while now. the thing is that we have actually already cut back considering school is hectic and we're both trying to apply for college. it just seems like whenever we get together it's been so long since our last romp it's kinda what we want, but not. eh.. sounds confusing huh?

anyway. any specific suggestions on spicing it up?

[Tao]

nothing's wrong with our relationship. it's going pretty great actually. there hasnt been any drama for a while now. the thing is that we have actually already cut back considering school is hectic and we're both trying to apply for college. it just seems like whenever we get together it's been so long since our last romp it's kinda what we want, but not. eh.. sounds confusing huh?

anyway. any specific suggestions on spicing it up?
viagra :boldred:

[boredlikewah]

viagra :boldred:

lol. nothing wrong in that department.

[golden_buns]

anyway. any specific suggestions on spicing it up?

Lingerie, sex toys, or just sexier outfits.

One thing I did with my sexual partner recently was, while we were having coffee after work at a crowded coffee shop, we started making out on couch at the back. It felt very daring as we kept touching and kissing, though we didn't end up having sex there.
I also had sex at the office on a saturday afternoon when there wasn't a soul around.

I feel like doing it on the CEO's desk but they always keep his office locked when he is out

[kitty]

a year or so... but the sex can get better after that... more intimate.

[ellsworth81]

nothing's wrong with our relationship. it's going pretty great actually. there hasnt been any drama for a while now. the thing is that we have actually already cut back considering school is hectic and we're both trying to apply for college. it just seems like whenever we get together it's been so long since our last romp it's kinda what we want, but not. eh.. sounds confusing huh?

anyway. any specific suggestions on spicing it up?

add another person :licka:

[boredlikewah]

a year or so... but the sex can get better after that... more intimate.

it has. so does that mean im just trippin off of nothing? because we dont have as much sex, but it's kinda nicer. i dont know...

[Tao]

Lingerie, sex toys, or just sexier outfits.

One thing I did with my sexual partner recently was, while we were having coffee after work at a crowded coffee shop, we started making out on couch at the back. It felt very daring as we kept touching and kissing, though we didn't end up having sex there.
I also had sex at the office on a saturday afternoon when there wasn't a soul around.

I feel like doing it on the CEO's desk but they always keep his office locked when he is out
i don't know about korea, but in the us, some offices have security cameras installed......just so you know.

[boredlikewah]

i don't know about korea, but in the us, some offices have security cameras installed......just so you know.

heh. but you have to admit, it does sound intriguing...

[Fireblade]

heh. but you have to admit, it does sound intriguing...

whoa.. you like ppl watching? :beerchug:

[steakandrice]

Wow! A guy that doesn't want that much sex only after a year and a half. What's up with his mojo??? An old couple?? Sorry to be an ass, but what kinda excuse is that?? I think honeymoon sex lasts for 6 months to a year....and....I think if sex would slow down it would be around the 2.5-3 year mark.

Girls need satisfaction too.

[ChinaLama]

Are there any forms of sex you guys haven't explored? you may want to try that. Just a thought!

[amietron]

maybe he needs more head.

[Emperor_Mike]

You should go on a vacation with your boyfriend.

[kboy75]

how about just be more spontaneous? surprise her. so it in different places around the house. do it in public...

[misoSoup]

you know what you should do? get naked more often or draw attention to your body to make him want you. like when you guys are watching tv, just take off your top at some random time and go "rawrrrr!". most guys get turned on easily just by looking at a naked body. o.O

[deez nuts]

mebbe you got sloppy like packed on more than a few pounds or don't doll yourself up nice for him anymore (simple shit like make up to lingerie).

mebbe you're not satisfying him or indulging his fantasies.

mebbe he's getting it from someone else

or mebbe he just don't want you no more

[Tao]

mebbe you got sloppy like packed on more than a few pounds or don't doll yourself up nice for him anymore (simple shit like make up to lingerie).

mebbe you're not satisfying him or indulging his fantasies.

mebbe he's getting it from someone else

or mebbe he just don't want you no more


uh oh, someone's cranky today :mellow:

[deez nuts]

not cranky

all above is a possibility and mebbe she should brace herself.

not sugar coating anything. why? cuz i had subway for lunch today.

[boredlikewah]

yeah... feeling much better....

[applehead]

why? cuz i had subway for lunch today.

you've been dying to say that.
huh?

[teaz0r]

it never wears off.
process of maintaining
a relationship is to
bring new additions
to it.

try anal sex. it's good.

[Deadpool]

it never wears off.
process of maintaining
a relationship is to
bring new additions
to it.

try anal sex. it's good.

oh my...

[mr. x]

to those of you married for a while, do u still find that your sex drive is pretty good or does marriage by definition wear it out a lil by lil?

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

to those of you married for a while, do u still find that your sex drive is pretty good or does marriage by definition wear it out a lil by lil?
I really wasn't sure what to post here. I think before kids and marriage you go through cycles. I mean, learning how to be a couple means finding things to do besides sex. Then college and job, moving out, living together, etc.

Of course kids can wear you out too.

Right now, just as the youngest hit 2, we seem to have both bounced back to having sex even more than before. (Of course my wife is at her peak now ;)) Sex is way more intimate and better even at 4-6 times a week on top of caring for 3 kids.

So to bored I would say that it's a phase guys go through when they get all the sex they want. I have a hard time believing teenage men know what intimacy really is, I don't think I did. (Well, I guess alot of 30+ men still don't.) My advice is keeping growing other aspects of your relationship together.

Personally, I love it when the female is frisky. Maybe you should simply withhold sex for a bit and see what happens. :D

[teaz0r]

friskaaaaaaaay!

[ChinaLama]

try anal sex. it's good.

now we're talkin'! FINALLY, someone let the cat out of the hat.

[boredlikewah]

I really wasn't sure what to post here. I think before kids and marriage you go through cycles. I mean, learning how to be a couple means finding things to do besides sex. Then college and job, moving out, living together, etc.

Of course kids can wear you out too.

Right now, just as the youngest hit 2, we seem to have both bounced back to having sex even more than before. (Of course my wife is at her peak now ;)) Sex is way more intimate and better even at 4-6 times a week on top of caring for 3 kids.

So to bored I would say that it's a phase guys go through when they get all the sex they want. I have a hard time believing teenage men know what intimacy really is, I don't think I did. (Well, I guess alot of 30+ men still don't.) My advice is keeping growing other aspects of your relationship together.

Personally, I love it when the female is frisky. Maybe you should simply withhold sex for a bit and see what happens. :D

hopefully it's just a stage... lol. i think our relationship is going well though. i think our relationship is growing in other aspects. we're so comfortable with each other, and we talk a lot more than other couples do. but.. cmon.. a girl needs a lil something too...

i think that i am kinda holding off on the sex thing. waiting for him to make a move i guess? no sex in two weeks.. good job us. lol.. i guess.

try anal sex. it's good.

i dont know.. it kinda scares me.

[Tao]

hopefully it's just a stage... lol. i think our relationship is going well though. i think our relationship is growing in other aspects. we're so comfortable with each other, and we talk a lot more than other couples do. but.. cmon.. a girl needs a lil something too...

i think that i am kinda holding off on the sex thing. waiting for him to make a move i guess? no sex in two weeks.. good job us. lol.. i guess.



i dont know.. it kinda scares me.
god damn, your bf's got more retraint than a buddhist monk. i tip my hat to him

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

boredlikewah, what is your boyfriend like? Is he Asian and basically raised without any mention of sex at all? Is he conservative?

I know you guys are teenagers in high school so I guess it might be hard to find places to have sex. Sometimes the initial thrill is sneaking behind parent's backs. Or maybe his parents found out and gave him a real embarrassing lecture. Not time for finals yet, but is this the time for college applications?

Don't mean to pry but maybe there is something we don't know about that could help. And as teaz0r said, are you frisky? Maybe too frisky? Some guys are turned off by that (fools! LOL).

[Tao]

[QUOTE=Proud_Jook_Sing] Some guys are turned off by that.QUOTE]

i'm not :licka:

[kimpossible]

hopefully it's just a stage... lol. i think our relationship is going well though. i think our relationship is growing in other aspects. we're so comfortable with each other, and we talk a lot more than other couples do. but.. cmon.. a girl needs a lil something too...


This is going to be extremely personal, so feel free to not answer - but what have you two... covered in the last year or so? What I found in about 10 years of togetherness is that even the overall frequency of sex declined but the level of intimacy of the sex acts increased, and the overall repertoire of sexual acts expanded.

I'd recommend two books. If you have the time go for some great, lazy Sunday afternoon rutting and read a bit of the book out loud with each other. Sometimes there are acts you each, or both, are ready to explore but broaching the subject is somewhat awkward and you may want more information to maximize pleasure and ensure safety. Both books provide a very frank and educational approach to sex and sex acts.

The Guide to Getting It On (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1885535104/qid=1069560404/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_1/103-5454717-4290245?v=glance&n=507846)

The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/1573441589/qid=1069560462/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_1/103-5454717-4290245?v=glance&n=507846)

[boredlikewah]

boredlikewah, what is your boyfriend like? Is he Asian and basically raised without any mention of sex at all? Is he conservative?

I know you guys are teenagers in high school so I guess it might be hard to find places to have sex. Sometimes the initial thrill is sneaking behind parent's backs. Or maybe his parents found out and gave him a real embarrassing lecture. Not time for finals yet, but is this the time for college applications?

Don't mean to pry but maybe there is something we don't know about that could help. And as teaz0r said, are you frisky? Maybe too frisky? Some guys are turned off by that (fools! LOL).

hmm.. the boyfriend is chinese. the one time his parents talked to him was to when he was fifteen and said "you know about sex and stuff right?" and i believe that was it. he's a pretty conservative guy, very straitlaced.

yes, it is college application time. i think my parents found out we were having sex but no one has said anything about it.

lol. too frisky? maybe. kinda like.. when im in the mood... IM IN THE MOOD. heh. make sense?


This is going to be extremely personal, so feel free to not answer - but what have you two... covered in the last year or so? What I found in about 10 years of togetherness is that even the overall frequency of sex declined but the level of intimacy of the sex acts increased, and the overall repertoire of sexual acts expanded.

hmm... we've done a lot of things i suppose. umm.. lots of diff positions and whatnot. no anal. that scares me. i guess intimacy is up while frequency is down. i dont know.. maybe i am just too frisky for him right now.

[Tao]

hmm.. the boyfriend is chinese. the one time his parents talked to him was to when he was fifteen and said "you know about sex and stuff right?" and i believe that was it. he's a pretty conservative guy, very straitlaced.

yes, it is college application time. i think my parents found out we were having sex but no one has said anything about it.

lol. too frisky? maybe. kinda like.. when im in the mood... IM IN THE MOOD. heh. make sense?




hmm... we've done a lot of things i suppose. umm.. lots of diff positions and whatnot. no anal. that scares me. i guess intimacy is up while frequency is down. i dont know.. maybe i am just too frisky for him right now.
why don't you just tell him that he's making you cream your pants? i think that'll drive any guy wild.

[kimpossible]

hmm... we've done a lot of things i suppose. umm.. lots of diff positions and whatnot. no anal. that scares me. i guess intimacy is up while frequency is down. i dont know.. maybe i am just too frisky for him right now.

frisky = want to fuck i assume. like you want more vaginal intercourse than what it currently available? (for lack of a better term) or do you think this is a larger compatibility issue?

if you're looking for a quick fix then i'd advise a lot of licking and sucking to

1) get him in the mood and announce your intentions, men are rather direct about sex and that's a clear message.

2) get your sexual expressions out in action and get you worked up. lick anything and everything you're willing to but don't finish him off at once.

Anal isn't the only non-vaginal alternative out there, and you certainly shouldn't do it if you're not ready or it doesn't appeal to you. However, I'd still recommend those books as they demystify a lot of "non-traditional" sex.

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

why don't you just tell him that he's making you cream your pants? i think that'll drive any guy wild.
Actually for some guys having it too easy turns them off. I think it was mostly control types and having the woman initiate gives them the control.

Is he getting too comfortable in the relationship? Like taking you for granted? I guess with college apps you might be going separate ways, have you talked about that? Maybe that is affecting things.

So is he still attentive but just not interested in sex?

[Tao]

So is he still attentive but just not interested in sex?
WTF! is that even possible? god damn...the rich get richer man

[Kennyb]

it never wears off.
process of maintaining
a relationship is to
bring new additions
to it.

try anal sex. it's good.

Sounds asthough you love having sex a lot. :p

[Proud_Jook_Sing]

Well I am more in agreement with HH. Married sex is more intimate. Not sure you really need to try new acts you're not comfortable with.

[Icepak]

Hey, I'm not a rabbit like I used to be. I guess I'm getting old and have more responsibilities on my mind. Relationships can get to a point where things seem "routine." He can start to anticipate you and vice versa. It's probably similar in the bed too. Spice it up by breaking some routines. Let him try the backdoor next time. :blush:

[Icepak]

Oh, dirty talk drives guys wild!