For Asian guys posting threads about Asian women being "stolen"

[Cipherous]

First off, this is not to all the Asian males who are this forum.

But I see threads like "Asian sellouts not dating me...boo hoo" and shit like that and I see alot of hipocrisy from those posters.

I usually see that "sell-outs" are usually Asian females, but rarely do I see a post about Asian males "selling out". Why is that? I've noticed that there is some bias against females especially by the males.

I am not saying that Asian people should start dating White people nor am I saying that Asian people shouldn't date White people. In my opinion, I have no right to judge a person by who he/she dates nor do I want to be judged by the skin color of my significant other. I am just stating that I am seeing a bias against Asian females who do date interracially by the Asian males. However you seldom see a bias against Asian males who date interracially by the same Asian males who are against "sell outs". There is a double standard here.

[coagulated fat]

Yeah, like one time an Asian guy I was considering dating kept going on and on about how he had dated blondes with big boobs, and by the way he said it I could just tell that he was trying to convince me that I was a fool if I didn't go out with him, since, after all, he could get a White woman if he wanted to.

[kitty]

that is so immature...

I think it's AMs lashing out at a fucked up situation but inadvertently hitting AFs as they do it. If you want to complain about the lack of AMs in media, do it without trying to pull down the AF. It's like "if I can't be happy, no one can"... it's very 3rd grade.

[Cipherous]

Yeah, like one time an Asian guy I was considering dating kept going on and on about how he had dated blondes with big boobs, and by the way he said it I could just tell that he was trying to convince me that I was a fool if I didn't go out with him, since, after all, he could get a White woman if he wanted to.

did you go out with him?

[coagulated fat]

did you go out with him?
No way. :cool:

[shy]

No way. :cool:

wish you could have captured his facial expression on camera when you turned him down. :D

man... what a dweeb. yeah... impress a woman by braggin' about past women you've been with... i can't believe he thought that might have worked!!!

[Cipherous]

wish you could have captured his facial expression on camera when you turned him down. :D

man... what a dweeb. yeah... impress a woman by braggin' about past women you've been with... i can't believe he thought that might have worked!!!

He must been somewhat of a stud or a looker if CF was considering his application

[kimpossible]

Yeah, like one time an Asian guy I was considering dating kept going on and on about how he had dated blondes with big boobs, and by the way he said it I could just tell that he was trying to convince me that I was a fool if I didn't go out with him, since, after all, he could get a White woman if he wanted to.

You should have told him that you usually dated blondes with big boobs too.

[coagulated fat]

You should have told him that you usually dated blondes with big boobs too.
I should have indeed. Then I could say obviously we aren't compatible, but you can be my shopping-for-blondes buddy.

Cipherous, you overestimate me. haha. I seriously consider all applications. I'm easy like that.

[mrazntre]

Yeah, like one time an Asian guy I was considering dating kept going on and on about how he had dated blondes with big boobs, and by the way he said it I could just tell that he was trying to convince me that I was a fool if I didn't go out with him, since, after all, he could get a White woman if he wanted to.

so you remained a fool...

[Fireblade]

Hahaha.... jeez Janice. No wonder you vowed never to make any more vows. [inside joke, don't worry about it]

I was like these guys who post threads before. In high school and all, because I live in San Francisco, there is a lot of people who believe "The Joy Luck Club" was their inside eye-opener to all things asian. (Seriously, there's a big group of people who believe Amy Tan's FICTIONAL story is all true.) So I was led to believe that basically all these white guys were hounding my chances at an asian woman. I was (maybe still) a bigot, and a hypocrite as well. Thing was, I didn't admit it, and it was a large part of my bitter teen years.

In any case, after getting my first girlfriend and all, I slowly didn't care anymore. I noticed that usually, you have to be some bitter fool who hasn't gotten with an asian woman to say that. But you know you wouldn't see that same response if it was someone outside of your race. I know the situation would have turned the same way if I had gotten with a black woman or a white woman, whatever.

Perhaps "selling-out" is a definition defined by a person's situation. I do not see interracial relationships as "selling-out". What is, is if you see racial injustice and you do not go out of your way to prevent it or do something about it when you are confronted with it. If my boss said "Damn I hate Chinamen, but not you Clinton, cuz you're cool.", then I have every right to go take him to court for racism in my work enviroment.

In any case, I really despise these threads, because we all GET IT. We know it exists! But if you try to steal attention from important issues and dwell on that instead, you are indeed not HELPING our cause. You want social change? Do something about it. You want to see more Asian Male representation? Stage a friggin protest in front of NBC's network headquarters. But don't bitch about how this affects your life, when we all damn know it, and quite frankly, you just make us take more time to deal with you.

Fuck, there's gotta be more constructive uses of your time anyway. Go write a book about it if you so wish to do so. Here's a frickin' example if you need one:

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0822326361/102-0930850-0797720?v=glance

it's David L Eng.'s Book "Racial Castration: Managing Masculinity in Asian America (Perverse Modernities)

Now go.

[Chris]

*shakes head*

[achtungbaby]

Let's try and not have to sing this particular song for a while. It's overplayed.

Closing.